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How can authors and aspiring authors deal with the lows that come with writing as a career? This is a great question, and the only answer is through.
Here's the honest truth: every single writer reaches low points. After my fourth novel, (for which I was paid very well and promised a lot of things that did not pan out), did not sell well, I was left angry, shaken and confused, I considered leaving the industry. It was a real reckoning: how much did I love what I did for a living vs. how unhappy the process made me? I am not alone in this feeling, regardless of when an author hits that point. Rejection, as I always tell aspiring writers, is simply part of the beast in this industry. If you are thin-skinned or take rejection personally, and I say this with the utmost love and kindness, this job isn't for you. I really mean that. Even now, I have manuscripts turned down, I get mean reviews all over the place, I get hateful emails. If this will make you crazy, find another outlet for your creativity.
That said, back to your original question: the only way through it is through. You just have to keep writing. My very first manuscript was agented but didn't sell to a publisher. My agent and I parted ways. I wrote another book, found a new agent (an exhausting process in and of itself), and she sold that book at a four-way auction. You just have to have the tenacity to keep going. It is not a steady, always positive career, and you just have to go into it knowing that. Surround yourself with a great support system, befriend other writers who have empathy, keep going.