What do you do when you lose somebody, and at the same time you are aware that no one is ever lost?
Last month I experienced two losses within two days. Two loved ones transitioned from this life. One left suddenly after a fall, and the other after a period of failing health.
Even though I believe that no one is ever lost and that our souls continue their journey, a loss is still a loss. I experienced sadness and grief, but I also felt deep gratitude for the moments I shared with them. When a loved one is not there anymore, whether it's the end of life or the end of a relationship, it creates an empty space that was previously filled by that special person. Curiously enough, the origin of the word "person" comes from Latin persona, meaning the mask work by a theatrical actor.
We are all characters in the theater of life, a grandiose production with billions of actors who each play their part with specific qualities, inspirations and beliefs. We all have our unique missions and gifts to share with the world. Once our mission is complete, we move on. It might seem that deaths are too sudden, or goodbyes come far too early, but it's soothing to believe that everything is according to a bigger plan. There are no accidents in life, only events that we can use for our learning, upliftment, and growth.
As much as I'd love to be in control of my life, I have come to understand that I'm not. I can set an intention and do my best, but the outcome might still not be what I want. Life is an interconnected tapestry of events. Sometimes you are the first domino who sets in motion a chain of desired events, and sometimes you are knocked down or lifted up by someone else's domino effect. However, the law of cause and effect always remains true. Everything we do affects our surroundings, even though we're not always able to see this directly or immediately. For years, I wanted to be completely independent and do things on my own. Now I realize that this is impossible! Why? Because I didn't come here on my own, my physical body was created by my parents. I wouldn't have survived if they hadn't taken care of me as a child.
Since I know that we are all connected, I trust that our actions and non-actions all have consequences. When I resolve one issue, I move forward in life more lightly and radiate a different energy than before, when I was wrestling with my issues. When I gain awareness, act consciously or make a meaningful contribution, I am making this world a better place. No act is too small. Everything counts as it is inevitably entwined in the law of cause and effect.
Now is the time to start living in a state of love, and sharing kindness and compassion with all beings, including ourselves. Our time here is a glimpse of infinity, it is limited. Yet, by living in a state of love, we will leave the legacy of a loving heart. Those who you leave behind will celebrate your life and say that you were loving and kind. You will continue to live in the hearts of those whose lives you touched, and they will be truly grateful. You will be a sparkle of love, memories, and inspiration forever, like the two loved ones I recently lost - and will never lose.
Written in loving memory of two special people. Thank you for leaving me the legacy of your loving heart!
