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The Mirror Perspective Of Suicide

Suicide kills on both side of a hate crime. I am not condoning these actions. I am saying that the youth today are screaming to be heard and where are the adults to help them understand what is going on.
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Suicide is the last resort for the people involved in these situations. It is on both sides that it is a last resort and many meanings of suicide point this out and reflects on society's state of mind. It is a fitting that the term, suicide is a reflexive pronoun. Reflective is key here... now continue with the meaning, the act of killing oneself intentionally or ruin of one's self interests or prospects through one's own actions and policies, a person who commits or tries to commit suicide. Though I have read that completing suicide is the better way of stating this and I agree with the idea of the completion of the intention, the life and the situation for this person.

So with this stated, let's restate the perspective of the bullies in reasoning why they are doing these actions. Remember by definition the bullies are completing suicide by ruining their self interests or prospects through their own actions. The justification of the bullies' state of mind can be the programming from society, media and authority figures, the very people that these kids are learning to be this way.

Somehow, I do see that the bullies are speaking out as loudly as the actual person that completed the suicide. From the reflective mindset of the bully we get this:

How insecure do I feel to have this need to pick on this person for being for who he are, just to feel big and worthwhile. Man, how threaten I feel by this person who has the nerves and the courage to be true to himself and let me know it. How much courage it must takes to stand up for his rights to be with who he wants to be with and express this side of love when I can't. Showing how much I don't have any real courage... How dare they do this in front of me?

Suicide kills on both side of a hate crime. I am not condoning these actions. I am saying that the youth today are screaming to be heard and where are the adults to help them understand what is going on. I have spoken to many teachers who tell me about the absence of the parents in the child's life, leaving it up to the teacher. Like the teacher brought this child into the world. Some parents do take responsibility for their child's welfare, though I do know some that are more worried about what is going on in the office gossips that the child's mind or what they are doing at school.

Now the true focus of the nation is on the youth that is our future. And I was very happy to see the many wonderful programs are out there for youth these days and in the news. When I was this age, I was blessed with a parent that heard me when I let him know that I needed help. I have a plan and I know it isn't what I really want to do. It was one of the hardest things for me to do to have that courage to ask for help, yet today I have empathy for both side of this situation.

No, I haven't been a bully, though through self awareness, I got the idea of what is going on in the other's mind at the time. It helps with the forgiveness and understanding of how this happens.

When these stories first appeared I didn't see where other youths going through this now could go and I am happy to see TheTrevorProject and GiveADamn in the news. I do wonder about the way things are heading for this generation.