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The No. #1 Reason for NOT Finding a Love Relationship (and What You Can Do About It)!

For many it's a summer of fun with a partner or spouse. But if you're a single person who desires to be in a wonderful love relationship, it can be a bit depressing sitting by the poolside all alone, sipping a pina colada, watching other couples joyfully in love (and wishing that was you).
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For many it's a summer of fun with a partner or spouse. But if you're a single person who desires to be in a wonderful love relationship, it can be a bit depressing sitting by the poolside all alone, sipping a pina colada, watching other couples joyfully in love (and wishing that was you).

As you take a sip of your yummy tropical drink, you might be wondering: "how the hell is it possible that a fabulous person like me, who is very serious about finding a committed relationship - hasn't found one, yet?"

How could this be? It makes no sense. Has the world gone crazy? Is there no God? Does someone need to channel Albert Einstein for an answer? If he can explain the theory of relativity, maybe he can explain his theory on why you have no honey!

If you've been saying to yourself (and your friends, family, street people and anyone within listening range), "I'm tired of being single - when am I going to meet Mr. Right (Miss Right)," the planet Saturn may be trying to contact you with an urgent message.'s good news! When the planet Saturn transits the 7th House of Relationships in your horoscope, it may provide you with the answer to the perplexing question about why you are single and not in a relationship that would rival Romeo and Juliet. (See the end of this article to find out where transiting Saturn is in your birth chart.)

Saturn is affecting you if you're feeling lonely, with a real "hole in your heart," because you don't have a happy love relationship in your life. Its planetary energies can make you depressed about being alone. (Even if you're in a relationship you may feel like you're alone, if your needs are not being met by your partner.)

If this is the case, the influences of Saturn can put you in touch with the limitations and restrictions that may be prohibiting you from finding the right relationship. In your attempts to find the right one, something maybe wrong in the way you've gone about it; so now is the time to ask yourself what it might be.

Saturn's presence in your life at this time is to help you re-evaluate changes you might make that would bring you a love relationship. If you spend too much time by yourself (or at work), perhaps it's time to get out and socialize with others. Why not join a social or professional organization where you can make new connections?

If you're so critical that no one seems interesting, maybe it's time a meet different people or reevaluate your standards. Or, maybe it's time to come to terms with whether you actually want a romantic partner in your life. Saturn is there to encourage some change that will help you get what you want.

If you've been dating someone exclusively, seeking a long-term relationship, this can be a serious and intense time of deciding to have a committed love relationship in the form of marriage or living together. Or, it maybe time to be realistic and recognize that you are not in a relationship that will lead to the long-run commitment you want. Saturn's message: review and re-evaluate your relationships (or lack of).

Looking for "Perfection" Kills Relationship Possibilities

Saturn may be in your life right now to bring realism and practicality to the affairs of your heart. If you've been frustrated in your attempt to find a special love relationship, you need to make an honest assessment of yourself and your attitude towards the romantic prospects you're meeting. One question to ask yourself is: "Are you too picky and critical when it comes to selecting a potential mate?"

If your answer is yes, then it may be time to be more accepting of yourself and your own imperfections. By doing so, you'll be less likely to seek perfection in another person. This will allow you to make an adjustment from what may be unrealistic standards to ones that are more reasonable and attainable. You'll suddenly open up the field of relationship possibilities and find it far easier to meet partners who are compatible and potential mates.

When I was single, I remember periods of endless dating, never finding the right woman for me. Part of my problem was that I was "stuck" on my list of criteria I insisted a woman meet before I would consider her for a relationship. Many of my wants were important, but many were not. I had a specific picture of how the perfect woman had to be. I came to realize that picture guaranteed I would be a lonely bachelor forever. Eventually, I changed my picture and the most amazing love relationship I've could have ever imagined came into my life.

Is It Time to Let Go of Idealistic Pictures of Romance?

Ask yourself: Is it time for you to let go of certain relationship requirements that in the past were fixed, in order to make it possible to achieve the goal of having a close relationship? If you genuinely do this, you'll allow marriage to be a distinct possibility that might not have been possible before Saturn transited your 7th House of Relationships.

If you're willing to make these adjustments, Saturn's influence in your life has the ability to make a relationship show up in reality. You may know a single person who has unrealistically high standards and who's always critical of the people they date.

Ironically, such a person may attract a relationship into their life that they find totally exciting and captivating. In fact, they're sure they have finally found the perfect soul mate - their ideal marriage partner, only to ultimately find that the other person was unsuitable and not really a good match for them. They're disappointed that the person didn't measure up to their expectations, yet they failed to realize that it was their expectations that caused their dissatisfaction - not the other person. Maturity helps us to understand that we can change our expectations but we can't change the other person.

If you've had this experience, Saturn's transit to your 7th House of Relationships, brings an opportunity for you to take responsibility for your inability to find a suitable partner. Never forget: when you have a relationship with someone who ends up not meeting your standards, the common denominator is YOU!

Therefore, it's time to re-examine your approach to love relationships, your criteria and expectations. The energies of Saturn will help you become realistic and find a new approach to bringing a love relationship into your life. You now have the opportunity to adjust your standards from perfection to human.

Are there any changes you want to make within yourself that might help you find the love relationship you want? It's time to get real.

If you want to know if Saturn and other planets are affecting your 7th House of Relationships, go the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health in: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015-16. Or, a report on - Your Love Compatibility.

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