I have a lot of resentments regarding things I didn't know about pregnancy, labor, birth, and recovery.
There is some seriously wacky shit that goes on with our bodies!
If your water breaks, wrap yourself in a towel for the ride to the hospital. Because that gushing fluid leakage? Yeah, it doesn't stop until baby is out. Your body continues to produce amniotic fluid until you are holding your sweet bundle.
After baby comes, you may experience uncontrollable shaking. Turns out, it's normal and it has a name. It's called transition. I sure wish I had known to expect it because shaking like that can be a little disconcerting.
With all the books and blogs now a days at our fingertips, I still felt blindsided on far too many things to mention.
I met with a friend recently who is expecting her first. As we caught up on life and what to expect, it occurred to me to share with her one of the many things I had to learn the hard way. In fact, this is the one thing I wish someone had told me about having a baby.
After the first six weeks of recovery are up and you officially get the "go-ahead" from your doctor, you can start having sex.
Unfortunately, it can be extremely painful. It can suck, actually.
It doesn't matter if you had a vaginal birth or cesarean, it can be painful either way. I can't speak for every woman out there, but I know I'm not alone.
So, if you just had a baby and you and your partner are thinking about getting busy again, here is something to consider. Practice by yourself first.
Go to an adult toy store, buy yourself a little (or big) friend, and practice. Seriously. And be sure to use lube. Another thing they don't always tell you, things tend to be extremely dry down there due to hormones, so don't be shy with the lube.
Speaking of being shy, if you are too embarrassed to go to a sex shop, good news!! You can order anything online now! The only worry there, is what type of box it may come in.
So, for the love of your future sex life, before you start with the extracurriculars in the bedroom, at least think about what I've said.
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