This post goes out to you if you're single or if you're settling with someone who's just not doing it for you.
What does it mean to "call in true love"?
Where do you find your "one"?
Maybe, like Santa, you've made your list and checked it twice: Smart, Kind, Handsome, Generous, Good with kids, Funny...
And you wait. Patiently. For your soulmate to arrive.
Suddenly, you think he has. The love goggles go on, and you're smitten.
Eventually you realize that he, like so many others before him, is a masquerader. You were reeled in. He was smart, seemed kind, was definitely handsome, and at least acted generously at first...
But something went wrong.
Maybe his kindness didn't last, his intelligence masked manipulation, his humor turned against you and, ugh, of course, he was still smoking hot...
Maybe this is a pattern.
You know how to manifest, and yet when you follow all the steps you're supposed to do, you still wind up with someone who is either hurtful, emotionally absent, or downright abusive.
The part you're missing about manifesting true love is your own subconscious interpersonal template of what love is supposed to look and feel like.
These are your emotional patterns that you can easily THINK you've gotten through, but really, you can't outwit your emotions.
If you really want to call in the kind of relationship you deserve, and you haven't yet had one of those, the reality is that visualizing and lists will only take you so far.
I'm all for the Law of Attraction, but it's not that simple.
You need to also take a close look at what your subtle emotional patterns and pitfalls are when it comes to the types of people you attract, and how you show up for yourself and for your partner in relationships.
If you have a history of bad relationships, what feels natural to you is probably NOT the best thing for you. This is counter-intuitive, but the things that feel good or exciting to you may actually be red flags that you're with someone who is fulfilling an old pattern of yours.
Ironically, the kind of love that you deserve is going to feel uncomfortable at first, because it will be something NEW and off your neural map, so to speak.
It may not be as exciting, and you'll likely not even be as initially attracted to the person who you'll ultimately create a strong relationship with, but true love is a marathon, not a sprint.
So grab a pair of nice running shoes.
You'll need sturdy ones to sustain a lot of mileage.
But you must be willing to look at yourself, and challenge old ways of doing things that made sense at the time, that might have been your only way of surviving.
These old patterns no longer serve you.
Take inventory of the types of people you've been with.
Have there been commonalities across your previous partners?
You'll start seeing clues about these patterns.
Try to understand where they come from, which is likely an early time in your life. Take a good honest look at your implicit beliefs about yourself from a fresh perspective.
This is obviously hard to do, so you might NEED a true fresh perspective, like a good friend, therapist or coach.
If you don't have one of those people handy, try to imagine yourself as a good friend. Are the implicit beliefs that your friend (or younger self) seems to have true?
Probably not.
Once you identify your patterns, and start to understand more about what love at its best is supposed to look like, you'll be more aware of red flags and danger signs when you start to recreate old patterns.
The foundation of love at its best is a strong, safe and secure emotional bond.
One in which your other half prioritizes, supports and cherishes you. Where respect doesn't even need to be mentioned, because it's a given.
When you know the roadmap of what a true love looks like, as well as the landscape of your own personal pitfalls in love, you're much more able to call in the former.
When you're aware of your pitfalls and less likely to get swallowed by them as a result, you'll be not only better able to call in not only the partner of your dreams, but will be able to create the relationship of your dreams.
The best part?
You totally can create the relationship of your dreams, regardless of your past.
A strong relationship is not a luxury, nor is it only for the lucky. You deserve one and can create one as much as anyone else.
Questioning if you are in an abusive relationship and not sure what to do? Or maybe you just need someone to talk to, now?
Visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline website: www.thehotline.org or give them a call for 24/7 free and confidential support: 1-800-799-7233