Last week I accidentally stabbed myself in the heart and it broke into a thousand pieces. I let my burning desire and goal I've been pursuing with all my heart and soul slip from my grasp. Like Eminem says, you only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow, this opportunity comes once in a lifetime, you better... And I blew it.
So what's the story?! I got my heart smashed and my all consuming goal unfulfilled. Yep. I got hammered! And now I want to talk to you about the road to confidence? Hell yeah! And trust me, this is going to get good. Really good!
Here's the super-abridged version.
About a year ago I set a crazy goal of becoming a boxing champ, even though I was a terrible boxer, I had no boxing coach and I had a total of zero boxing fights. Ha! Not exactly the best ingredients for domination and success in the boxing ring! But instead of worrying about not having everything all perfectly aligned -- okay enough with the euphemisms, let's call it how it was, I pretty much had the worst odds in history -- I just attacked my goal like a base jumper at Troll Wall in Norway. Mad? Definitely. Petrifying? Endlessly. Worth it? Without any shadow of a doubt, absolutely.
Having a burning passion and purpose, and chasing it with your heart, mind, and body is called LIVING. And the result is beautiful.
I have never known myself so intimately, never known how to get so much out of myself, even when I've been drowning in doubt and choking with fear. I've confronted so many self doubts this year I feel like I've earned a Masters in Demolishing Fear. And my intention is the same for you.
Have you got something deep inside of you that you secretly wished you could do?
Maybe you'd like to take up art, or singing, or be able to run for 10 kms, but you're too scared to try because you think you'll be terrible at it? Or maybe you'd like to start a new job, or lose all the weight you've been wanting to lose for the past 10 years, but you're too scared of the uncertainty, or you've failed so many times in the past, you've stopped pretending you even want it?
Maybe you're stuck in a dead-end relationship but you're too scared to deal with the drama of ending it, or you're too scared to go it alone? Or maybe you're afraid to really express yourself and your own needs, to your boss or to your boyfriend/girlfriend/guy you fancy at the coffee shop, because you're scared of being vulnerable, or scared of being rejected?
It's SO normal. The reality is, we are all scared. In fact all of us are super scared about so many things. I am too. But we don't need to let it stop us. Not any more.
Can you think of something that's holding you back in life because actually, you're just too scared to really go for it?
Being confident doesn't mean you stop having fear. It just means you stop living in your own shadows, and you learn to say to yourself, I'm going to smash this out of the ball park. I OWN this.
So if you're afraid, fine. But don't let that stop you.
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