What story are you telling today? To others? To yourself?
Your words and your actions are all part of your story. Things you do and things you DON'T do are part of your story.
It's ALL part of your story.
And...stories can work with us or against us.
You can tell yourself that you are a supporter, i.e., you support and lift up those around you. You don't compete with them but truly help them when they need it and don't see their success as something they win and you lose. But, when push comes to shove, do you live up to that story? Do you truly get excited when a friend or co-worker has good news or was promoted or do you say "Congratulations!" and then behind their backs or after they leave the room say "How the heck did they do that?" or "They only got that because..."
You can tell yourself that you are present with other people, i.e., when someone is talking with you that you aren't on your phone or looking over their shoulder to see who else is in the room. But, when push comes to shove, do you find yourself on the phone when your kids are asking you a question, at lunch with a friend or during a meeting (granted, you may not need to be at the meeting in the first place...but that's a post for another day...). Are you physically present but mentally somewhere else?
Now, I don't ask these questions to make you feel bad. Nor do I ask them with the expectation that I do both of these all of the time. Sure, I get envious and sure, I tell my boys "just give Mama one more minute..." I'm human and so are you. It happens. But I can tell you that once I made an effort to support and lift others up around me and once I made an effort to be more present, I started to live into my own Story.
And words from people I deem role models like Glennon Doyle Melton help. I had the privilege of seeing and meeting her in person last week in Boston at the MA Conference for Women. She is an inspiration to me in so many ways and one thing she said in particular resonated with me. She said something like:
"You are envious of people who are doing something you want and know you can do."
BTW - I have total and complete envy of Glennon, which made me so excited to hear her say these words. I do now and want to continue to work with women to help them Unleash their Inner Warriors and become their truest, best selves. She has helped me do that so it seems I'm on the right path!
And words from another role model, Robin Sharma also resonate with me. In his recent Mastery Session he discussed confidence. See video here [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okqrdrmCedo]. And I think that sometimes it's just confidence in ourselves, which translates to confidence in our stories. The more confidence we have in ourselves, the easier it is to share our stories. It's when we aren't confident or are afraid to speak up for fear that someone will laugh at us, think we are stupid or maybe worst of all...do nothing.
So...
What story are you telling today? To others? To yourself?
Your words and your actions are all part of your story. Things you do and things you DON'T do are part of your story.
It's ALL part of your story.