Some people just find a way to shine through whatever darkness tries to mask their light, and for this we should all be grateful, because by their courageous efforts we can all learn to shine.
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I am Mark Brodinsky and this is The Sunday Series.
The Sunday Series (106): Ashley Inside-Out
"Whatever it is you believe, why you were put here, that bigger power made an investment in you and that investment needs a return. The power, whether it be God or whatever, is asking where is my ROI? It's saying I invested in you and I want a huge return. I will give you more if you serve your purpose. I will give you more."
The quote above is from Ashley Zahabian. Understand Ashley is only 21.
Let that number sink in a bit. At the tender age of 21 this girl gets it. And the only reason she does is because she's been to a place too few of us choose to go, inside ourselves and deep into our pain.
"It is your job on this earth to go through pain", says Ashley. "If you don't you're not human... you're not. You're just not human."
For four years, starting at the age of 14, Ashley faced her pain, sometimes unwillingly, sometimes by her own choosing. But the bottom line is she did it and because of it this powerhouse of a young woman can teach us all a great deal.
It all began - as it does for way too many teenage girls - with an eating disorder.
"At 14 years old I was a very insecure person," says Ashley. "It didn't come off this way because I was masking it, but I started to lose control of my life. It was not something people knew about, not something my parents knew about until they saw me losing weight. I would go to the gym constantly and compare myself to other people. I was working out more and more and my mental state started changing. At first it was like, 'oh I just want to lose weight', but every day things were changing, not just my weight, but my diet, my routine. I couldn't fall asleep until I showered because I felt like the food was physically on me. I would hear voices in my head. I would look in the mirror and what I saw was completely different then what other people could see. It's bad and it can mess you up for the rest of your life".
She continues: "When I went to the hospital the doctor said, 'the way this looks, you are dying.' I said, 'excuse me?' I didn't know I was sick, I thought I was being healthy. It's not until someone tells you. I was admitted to the hospital by force, not by want, so when I heard all that I was confused. I didn't want to listen to it, or believe it".
That's when the journey truly began. Bouncing back and forth in a four-year period from one hospital to the next, Ashley was forced to do the one thing she had been unable to do, what most young people, or even those of us reading this post are unable to do, look inside ourselves, face the pain and change from the inside-out.
Cut-off from the world Ashley had no access to her phone, computer, or TV. Her family wasn't around to use as a crutch, she had to change on her own. She found the power of self-development and she knew she had to face the lies.
"I was lying so much", says Ashley. "I would lie about everything. Essentially what I did was face every single rule I made up in my head, or every lie and I had to face it. Everything bad about myself I had to do something about it. Doctors said you have to put it out of your system. The only way you can get better is to pull it out from inside, get it out. I had to talk to the person I lied to, my parents, my professors, my friends."
"When you isolate yourself so much and isolate yourself in personal development, you are a different human being." Ashley immersed herself in personal growth, working on herself from the inside-out and came to the conclusion that she says too few understand about life. "Life is so fair," says Ashley. "People just don't see it. Cause life gives you exactly what you deserve and nothing is free. People are so quick to point outside. If you point inside you realize, 'oh, that was kind of my fault.'. If you just blame yourself you undo problems. Emotional intelligence is the most important thing in the world. When I date the first thing I look at is the EQ, not the IQ. As you grow personally everything else follows."
At 21, Ashley and her story are gaining a huge following and changing other people's lives. By going through the pain she says we all must face in life - our job as a human being - she is sharing in a way that few can, open and honest.
By sharing her story and living her purpose to help others this young lady, just breaking into the second decade of her life, has become a magnet for success. Ashley attracts opportunities to speak, does voice-overs, does videos because she is being the person she was designed to be every day - consistently truthful, vulnerable and with the goal of bringing value to other people.
"Become valuable and everything falls into place," says Ashley. "My whole day is focused on value and things come to me. You just attract certain things. Be that valuable as a human being. When my value goes up, everything else around me goes up, cause I'm working on myself that much. Self-development is the most important thing in your life!"
Ashley has also learned you can't pursue, you have to attract.
"When you stop chasing, start being who you are supposed to be things come to you. People come to me because they know I have the EQ for it. I get speaking opportunities, (just check out her YouTube clip on this blog, as she recently opened for Gary Vaynerchuk), videos, voice-overs, and I am bringing value in different ways because I am attracting it. Like I said when your value goes up, everything else around you goes up. If you increase your value then every single person who shakes your hand is going to be affected".
I can't emphasize enough the power in Ashley's voice and in her mission. At 21 she is taking on the world and we should all be so inspired. Her vision is as big as the power inside of her and she wants it to be that way for all of us.
"I want to do a world-tour on self-development, that's my goal", says Ashley. "It's a long-term goal, to build my fan base and practice speaking. By 24 or 25-years-old I want to create a university, an emotional intelligence university. I'm working on the curriculum. I have to be consistent. It can be painful to be consistent, but the pain pays off."
Ashley has been through the pain, but it is our gain. She defines the core of this blog - demonstrating courage, finding hope and working intensely on herself and sharing her story to provide inspiration.
This young lady is making a difference, bringing gain from her pain. I for one, after only a short interview, have become a big fan.
"AZ" has got the "EQ" and she's doing it from the inside-out.
Until next time thanks for taking the time,
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