I don't often use the word "hate" because it's a waste of energy, but in 2013 something I read in The Answer, by John Assaraf caused me to pull that "H" word out.
Assaraf says for any idea, there is a gestational period that goes with it, much like a baby gestating in the womb for nine months before it's born. He calls this the Law of Gestation or the Law of Incubation.
According to this Law, when you attract an idea it must be planted like a seed, nurtured, and allowed to grow and develop naturally, before you'll see the end result. That's how nature works.
Should be pretty easy to accept, right?
Wrong! I hated this idea!
Three years ago all I wanted was to have massive success in my business right then and there. I not only wanted it, but I thought I needed it. After all, I live in the same instant gratification society that you do.
Guess what happened?
Instead of instant success, I began to suffer from Shiny Object Syndrome as I looked into every potential solution to help me get to six-figures in my business I invested in courses, books, business coaches... (list out what you've invested in). But it seemed like the harder I tried, the more I struggled.
Ultimately, I ended up more than $50,000 in debt with buckets full of deep, horrible guilt and shame.
And I know I'm not alone. I've seen the lengths people are willing to go to for something they desperately want and think they need to have now.
The problem with all the rushing and pushing forward for the sake of instant gratification is those actions are rooted in fear and a lack of trust. Those actions say that you have faith that everything will work out.
I tried to outsmart nature and the natural incubation period of seeds and dreams by reading books and taking course after course, looking for shortcuts to success, when what I really needed to be doing was taking action in my business and trusting that success was inevitable as long as I didn't stop.
As you can imagine, I didn't win that battle.
There will always be a learning curve in life and business, and especially when you're an entrepreneur. If you accept that you can find ways to accelerate success, but it will still take time and patience, you'll eventually be better off.
Rushing like crazy to try and make it all work overnight doesn't work.
I am now achieving the dreams I had 3 and 5 years ago. My business is flowing better than ever and everything is much more effortless and exciting because I now have the experience and knowledge that I couldn't have possibly had when I was first starting.
If you're feeling pressure to achieve success, you are living in fear -- fear that if you don't achieve massive success right away, you will have to return to a regular job or situation that didn't fuel your heart. Fear that you will have to give up your dreams. Fear that others will judge you and hold you in contempt. Fear that you won't measure up.
Those fears only cause you to sabotage yourself, pushing success even further into the distance.
Nothing sustainable is born or achieved overnight. It is so important that you understand that any so-called "overnight successes" you see all over the entrepreneurial world aren't overnight successes at all. They are polished, well-crafted, developed businesses that took years to get to where they are.
Here are 5 tips to help you use the Law of Gestation in your favor:
1. Feel Into It -- when you're feeling impatient, ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Why am I rushing? Is what I fear really true?
2. Focus On the Good Stuff -- turn to gratitude and appreciation to get back to focusing on something positive.
3. Remind Yourself That You Are Enough -- just as you are. You're not your metrics, performance, email list size, bank account or results. You're so much more than that.
4. Take Consistent Action No. Matter. What. To accelerate your goals, take action every single day so you can build momentum and then sustain it.
Action Begets Action -- Rome really wasn't built in a day. Every step you take will stack up on every other step in order to build your dream. You will get there, but it takes time. Have heart in the fact that you are not alone in this.
You must learn to stay the course in your entrepreneurial journey, so you can incubate your dreams and goals into reality. Have trust that nature has the odds stacked in your favor, and everything is being taken care of and unfolding exactly as it is supposed to -- even if it doesn't always feel like it.
Patience is the real key to success.