Divorce

This Is What It Looks Like To Divorce At 25

"It may be the end of your world as you know it but it's not the end of the world."
In your 20s, you&rsquo;re still figuring out what a healthy relationship looks like, said <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachel-g-scott/" data-beacon="{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;entry_text&quot;,&quot;lnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;,&quot;mpid&quot;:0}}">teacher and writer Rachel Scott</a>.
In your 20s, you’re still figuring out what a healthy relationship looks like, said teacher and writer Rachel Scott.

This Is Divorce At...“ is a HuffPost Divorce series delving into divorce at every stage of life. Want to share your experience of divorcing at a certain age? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com.

At 25, teacher and writer Rachel Scott found herself newly divorced and raising two young children on her own. It was hardly the life she had envisioned but eventually, she realized it was a mistake to dwell on how she got there.

"In your 20s, I think it's easy to miss the truth that life hasn’t ended just because a marriage did," she said.

Below, Rachel, who has been married to second husband Willie since 2011 (together they have a total of seven kids!) tells The Huffington Post more of her story.

Being divorced in your 20s can give you life or break you. I had been married for a total of four years when my husband and I split up. I was a mother of two young kids. There were times I found myself completely embarrassed to say that at 25, I had already experienced divorce. It felt like admitting youth had lead me down a road of destruction and I was left living with the consequences.

At that age, you're still learning how to surround yourself with people who are life giving rather than life taking. That was the case for me, at least. I was still trying to find healthy relationships in my life and learning that those that weren’t healthy for me had to go. No matter how much you may want something or someone around, if it isn’t bringing life to you, it's taking life from you.

Rachel at the time of her divorce.&nbsp;
Rachel at the time of her divorce. 

How people respond to the news depends a lot on the character and heart of the people in your inner circle. My family and friends were very supportive and understood why divorce was my only option. They were full of wisdom and truth which helped me avoid completely emotional decisions and responses.

Still, other people who had not been an active part of my life through the marriage had a lot to say. I learned to value the opinions of those who actually knew what was going on and had my best interest at heart.

Rachel has been married to her second husband Willie for five years now. The couple, who run the website, <a href="http://www.betterthanblended.com/" target="_blank">Better Than Blended,</a> have seven kids&nbsp;between them.&nbsp;
Rachel has been married to her second husband Willie for five years now. The couple, who run the website, Better Than Blended, have seven kids between them. 

The truth is, no one gets married planning their divorce. It comes as an unpleasant shock to everyone to realize that hearts once united can so easily grow divided. But in fairness to the life that you have yet to live, allow yourself to grow through this disappointment. Become wiser for your future. It may be the end of your world as you know it but it's not the end of the world.

With your past mistakes behind you and greater wisdom and perspective to guide you, you are on the right path to a brighter future. Heed the wisdom gained from your past.

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