Often when things don't go as planned, we can become discouraged and start questioning "Am I on the right track?" or "how can I ever recover from this situation?" The path can seem dark and at times even hopeless, unfixable and irreparable; but I want you to know that there is no situation that you cannot overcome.
Regardless of what your story is, you can rewrite it at any time. That is the beauty of life, you get to start over at any time. You don't have to continue to live with the guilt or shame of your mistakes or missteps. Here are three keys from my book I AM THE GATEKEEPER: 101 Daily Keys to Unlock Your Happiness, Overcome Adversity and Fulfill Your Purpose, to help you overcome your past mistakes and setbacks:
"Always Winning" Attitude: You are always winning regardless of the outcomes of your pursuits. Declare yourself "a master of comebacks". I believe two things come out of adversity; the first one is a lesson. You would probably not have learnt how to deal with a similar situation in the future had you not personally had this experience. It is preparing you for something bigger on your path and if you view this mistake or challenge as a lesson, rather than a setback, you can move on to winning on your other goals. The second thing that comes out of adverse situations is a blessing.
Sometimes we experience setbacks on a certain path because life wants to redirect us to the path that better serves us. That does not mean that the goal or desire is not meant for you, it probably means that the way you want to achieve it is not the best path. Often we are fixed on a particular person or action to achieve our goals, but there is more than one way to do it, so stay positive and stay open.
Let Go of the Past: Easier said than done, but today is a new day and a new chance to recreate who you want to be. Perhaps your actions have hurt a lot of people, maybe you lost money but this is not the end. You can change it all today. Maybe you can't fix the past relationship or the business that you lost, but there are new relationships waiting for you and new opportunities. Even though you messed up in the past ask yourself "what have I learnt and how can I do better now". Do not be afraid to ask for help.
When you acknowledge that whatever mistakes you made in the past, is as a result of the information that you had at the time, now that you know better, do better. Look back at the past only to see how far you have come and start creating your new story.
Embrace Your Wilderness Experience: We all go through a period in our lives where it feels like you are stuck between where you want to be and where you are now. Nothing seems to be working or changing. Embrace this time, because it is a time of preparation. The feeling of emptiness is only a transitional period. Focus on building that bridge that will help you move forward. The wilderness is a place of preparation for the soul.
Take the time to reflect on your life, maybe you will discover some things you don't like, but don't focus on that, focus on how you can move forward. Work on getting the knowledge, coaching and developing the right skills you need to take you to the next level. It is challenging to move forward unless you are ready and being ready means being prepared. So use your wilderness experience to prepare for your next level.
What makes life so colourful and exciting is that we are perfectly imperfect. We all make mistakes but we should never become a prisoner to our past actions. Often the one that is judging you the hardest is you. If you made a mistake, learn to forgive yourself first, take 100% responsibility for your life and take positive action steps to do better starting today. Trust that setback, is sometimes God's, the Universe or whatever name you use way of guiding us to exactly what we want.