Many will be familiar with Hamlet's famous soliloquy by Shakespeare. It's a question that continues to puzzle me. Or I might describe it as not always knowing when to let go. Put simply, it's do with allowing what's not meant to be to be okay with me. In theory, I fully concur with the often held belief that we are not meant to be glued to some things. However, in many situations letting go can continue to be challenging. As I write this blog, I'm having an inner tussle about whether or not to let go of a business decision I had previously not thought about much. When we admit to having this kind of struggle, somehow it's as if we become directed to making a good decision -- I know I now have.
Anyway, here I am in my never-ending quest for more clarity about how to improve my life. As an avid believer that each of us are here for a specific purpose, having discovered my purpose enables me to let go of aspects of my life that no longer serve me. For instance, focusing almost all of my attention on the financial arena, where most of my business came from, is no longer the case. Now, my efforts are focused on the education sector. I now work with colleges, universities and business schools. Although financially less rewarding than the corporate arena, it is far more satisfying and induces a state of greater wellbeing.
Discovering my purpose has been a very challenging journey. However, emotionally I feel freer and more content than I have for quite a while. That's not to say when I was very busy working in the corporate sector I wasn't fulfilled -- I was. However, the fulfillment was a symptom of having enough money to almost do with as I wanted. So yes, materially I was satisfied, yet something was missing. My To Be or Not To Be moment, transpired through racking my brain, feeling a little lost and confronting my fears. By facing the things we feel are holding us back, they tend to dissolve or become much less significant in our lives.
Some of you may think this is all sounds a bit woolly. Worry not, I'm not in the mode of new-age thinking. I am in the mode of personal development. That's because there are fewer things that are as important to our lives as our personal development. Our personal development for me is a must have, that's because it has changed my life in an extremely positive manner. I might add, the positive improvements are aligned to knowing myself better, being able to manage my emotions, having more patience and allowing my intuition to guide some of my decision making and more.
To decide if something is meant to be or not, endeavor to remove yourself from the decision making process. Knowing that deciding that saying you don't know is in itself a decision. Never beat yourself up for not deciding one way or another, though that's normal, even for the most successful individuals I've come across. Always remember, if it's not to be, it'll be accompanied by a gut feeling that is supportive. Equally, if it's to be, listen to your intuition, as it usually knows more than we think. Also, endeavor to not over-think, it'll just distract you and aggravate the situation.
Some tips:
* Think of letting go as releasing a burden
* Remember, you don't lose control by letting go, you actually gain more control
* The old adage -- less is more is so true
* Our lives become more joyful when we are able to let go
* Allow intuition to play a part in letting go
* By letting go we don't give up, we give into what's meant to be
* Allow there to be consideration time, before deciding