The fourth episode of ABC's "The Bachelor" featured more Emmy-worthy editing, from the tiny violins playing over Ashley "Kardashian's"s tragic princess soliloquy to the close-up shots of her weave to the sad, foreboding music behind Jillian's tasteless "Who Would You Rather" inquiry. That said, we would revoke all Emmys for the misleading season teaser they made a few weeks ago which suggested premature pre-fantasy-suite humping happened in a tent. Lying liars!
While the catty interpersonal drama we've come to love and expect is a little lacking this season, and Prince Farming's personality is nowhere to be found, we can still glean some
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It's 2014. Can we please dispense with the retro myth that virginity = value? Just because you've never experienced the presence of a penis in your vagina does not make you "marriage material." (And while we're at it, let's dispense with that old-fashioned "marriage material" term, too!) Respect given should not ebb and flow in relation to the number of partners a person has had. (Chris: "It makes me respect her more." Say wha?!) Are you in touch with your sexuality and enjoy sex with open and honest communication? Great! Are you abstaining until you've found the right person? Great! But please don't whip out your V-card and flash it around like it's a Black Amex. Lipstick, concealer, bronzer and contour makeup have no place on a camping date. It's okay to get glammed up for special occasions (though we'd reconsider the fake, tarantula-leg eyelashes), but a quick run to the corner store to pick up croissants and the Sunday New York Times for you and your lovie should not require three and a half hours of prep in front of the vanity.Little girls under the age of 6 can get away with calling themselves "Disney Princesses" -- just barely. But if you are an adult woman, you should not consider yourself a princess, expect to be treated like one, or refer to yourself as such in public with zero shame. This is the real world, not Far Far Away; you are a grownup, not a spoiled brat. Self-infantilization is not attractive. Before this becomes the official Poop on Ashley I. Parade, let's switch gears: It's your life and your body, do with it what you want -- but when revealing past personal choices, consider the nude modeling slightly more potentially scandalous than the called-off engagement. It is a HUGE red flag when you gently ask the person you're dating a legitimate, challenging question and they become so enraged that they cannot form a complete sentence -- indeed, they cannot even finish a single sentence. (Verbatim: "I guess, ah, I see two sides, like, a, Kaitlyn has a lot of different facets that are, not, and I don't, those aren't, I see the Kaitlyn that's just, you know what I mean? I mean obviously, I mean if you like her or dislike her, I don't see, I don't look at Kaitlyn like being some really, I mean I'm not rewarding inappropriate behavior, you know, by giving roses to people that are, and I, if you view it as that, um...") When the expression on your date's confused face reads "Can't talk, must punch," it's probably a good idea to back up slowly and then briskly walk away.Support HuffPost
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