Everywhere I look someone is complaining about the removal of the headphone jack on the new IPhone 7. Whether it be because they have some fancy schmancy headphones they can’t use any more or they dislike the new Bluetooth earbuds which…let’s face it…are going to get lost. And if you’re like me, their earbuds hurt your ear like crazy so thanks but no thanks.
For those of us who feel this was an epic fail, we can choose to do one of two things:
1. Crawl back under the covers or get really mad and rant about it to everyone and everywhere. This route really gets you nowhere other than really ticked off, raising your blood pressure, kicking your cortisol into gear (the health coach in me could explain how this is bad but I’ll refrain for today), and sitting on the couch drowning in chips because of the trauma.
2. Figure out a way to live with this change that seemingly will be a real pain in the ass so we can get the other great benefits that come with the new phone. A much healthier approach which in turn saves your body some unnecessary angst and keeps your waistline in check.
Not gonna lie here. I have had moments of considering not using my annual phone upgrade. I mean, what were they thinking? How was I going to listen to my music while walking or in the car? I don’t have some fancy new car with Bluetooth already installed. The trauma. The unfairness of it all!
But then I remembered that we control our reactions. Sure we didn’t ask for this but we can choose how to react to it.
Just like when a project does not go as planned, our job gets downgraded, that relationship takes a dive (and not pretty like an Olympic diver), our health heads south, the trip gets ruined, the dog eats the couch, you stand in the line at the grocery store for 30 minutes because you had too many items for the self-checkout (totally yesterday….I almost put items back), etc.
We get to choose our reaction and mindset in most situations. It’s an “acquired taste” much like Apple Cider Vinegar Water but nonetheless a choice that is absolutely doable with some practice.
Here’s what I did. I hopped on Amazon after I spent about 30 minutes pondering the humanity of it all, complaining with the masses. I bought some Bluetooth headphones that should actually be comfortable and a Bluetooth device for my car. For $50, my first problem of the day was solved. No angst. No chips. No expanded waistline. No drama.
Now like I said this mindset is acquired. You have to work at it for it to become second nature. Break it down like this.
1. First of all…breathe. Step back before reacting. This step alone requires the most practice!
2. Identify the problem and dig down deep into the nitty gritty so you know exactly what you are dealing with. So the boyfriend was a jerk today. Why was he a jerk? What really caused it? Did you do something that contributed to his jerkiness? People don’t like to admit their part in things but we often have something to do with the whole “situation.” Owning this is incredibly freeing and allows you work your way into a more productive mindset.
3. Remind yourself that the issue doesn’t define you and that you are in control of your reaction and how you tackle the problem. Remind yourself that you will feel better if you handle the issue calmly (I mean if nothing else you’re looking out for number one here). If applicable, remind yourself that the problem won’t matter in ____ days/years.
4. Envision the outcome if you don’t try to solve the problem (or flip out) so you know what you want to avoid. This will help you stay out of the avoidance mindset.
5. Look for solutions to the problem that do not involve excessive reactions. Think outside of the box. Ask others for advice.
6. Work that productive mindset and fix that problem. At this point, you have solutions, you are calm, and your mindset should be in a place where you are ready tackle the issue, get it done, and move on.
Certainly, a missing headphone jack isn’t as critical as an issue with a spouse, a job, a child, or health but the steps to getting that mindset in check are still the same.
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Suzanne helps motivated women who have found themselves in a debacle with their weight, less than vibrant energy, skyrocketing stress levels, and tanking mindset create a wellness system that fits their unique lifestyle so they can regain that mythical thing called energy, finally walk by a mirror without cringing, and ditch some or all of the small pharmacy located on their kitchen counter. Suzanne has “been there and done that,” having battled weight issues and chronic illness for years herself while working in the business world.
Suzanne also helps online entrepreneurs develop a clear blueprint to get their business off the ground faster through the power of discovery, social media, and web presence so they can cut through the struggle and start making money doing what they were meant to do.
Suzanne is a Certified Health and Wellness Coach, an AADP Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, a PHR and SHRM-CP Certified Human Resource Professional with over 16 years of Human Resources experience, a Huffington Post Contributor, and the Founder of Holistic Health and Wellness Innovations and SuzPro. Suzanne also holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Human Resource Management.