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What I Wrote In Lipstick On My Bedroom Mirror After Divorce

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If there’s ever a time you need a little distraction in your life, it’s during the divorce process. That’s why we launched our Divorce Care Package series. With each post, we’ll show you what things — books, movies, recipes — helped others relieve stress in the midst of divorce, in the hopes that a few of their picks will serve you well too. Want to share what got you through your divorce? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com.

Lifestyle blogger and mom of three Chrystie Vachon spends her days teaching parents how to build their blogging empires while their kiddos sleep.

Seven years ago, though, her blog posts were about something something quite different. Newly divorced after seven years of marriage, Vachon began sharing heartfelt essays about splitting up, co-parenting and life as a single mom.

Below, the since-remarried blogger shares five things that helped her heal after divorce, including writing through the heartbreak.

The Quote
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"As embarrassing as this is to admit, when I finally moved into my new post-divorce apartment, I wrote, 'You are f*cking awesome' in red lipstick on the mirror in my bedroom. I needed to see that every single time I looked in the mirror because the woman staring back at me always looked so scared and unsure of herself."
The Distraction
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"Shortly after my divorce, I set up a divorce blog where I poured my heart out into some really vulnerable posts about the heartache and difficulties of divorce and co-parenting. It was great for a while because I would get emails from other women who were going through the same thing and somehow they found solace in my words. But eventually it became too overwhelming to constantly be writing about and talking about divorce. I just didn’t want to be sad anymore. I wanted to stop looking at the past and move forward with my awesome new life. Now I teach other moms how to build their blogging empire on my site Living For Naptime."
The Book
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"I found solace in Greg Behrendt’s book It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy. As funny as the book may be, the best takeaway I got from it was to have a 'breakup buddy.' This is the person you call or text when you are tempted to call your ex. This single tip alone probably saved me from many foolish mistakes. Sample quote from the book: 'Alone also means available for someone outstanding.'"
The Album
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"I’m pretty sure Josh Radin’s album 'Simple Times' got me through the worst of my post-divorce days. The song 'Brand New Day' played on a loop in the bedroom of my new apartment. Sample lyric:'It's a brand new day/ The sun is shining / It's a brand new day / For the first time in such a long long time / I know, I'll be OK'"
The Splurge
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"I purchased a single diamond band for myself shortly after my divorce and wore it on my right hand. When anyone asked me about it, I said it was my divorce gift to myself. I missed wearing diamonds and it was a reminder that I was going to be OK on my own."
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