What to do when it's not working

“It’s no longer working”, I allowed myself to finally say it out loud with almost a deep cry.

I instantly felt relief followed by a compounding fear.  “What did this mean? How was this going to affect everything?”

I am reminded of a HUGE decision my husband and I made last year…

I feel like a lot of women can relate to this feeling of

                        Something’s no longer working…

A little background on our decision:

This decision is not something that came easy for me, as I come from a family of educators.

This is not easy for me to admit.

But, there were a lot of days where my youngest son was coming home crying, or I was stressing about doing homework, trying to manage doing all of these different pieces.

I want to be clear when I say this, FOR US, it was no longer working.

I am not saying that anyone needs to do what we do by any means. In fact I believe the exact opposite.

“It’s not about following one way, It’s about allowing yourself to create a unique path for you, that works at any given life stage”

I remember the cry of relief one night when I admitted to myself that it WASN’T WORKING

Identifying what isn’t working: For us, the conventional school system wasn’t working. We chose to take our kids out of the conventional school system.

This last year was not easy, but I can tell you it was absolutely worth it.

Following a deep and authentic truth: The reason why it was working is because my husband and I were following a deep authentic truth inside of us.

It takes a lot of courage to admit what’s not working!

Facing the challenge: It is challenging when what we feel is so separate from what we have been doing. Or so separate from what society has been doing.

Then we recognize in our inner truth, that it’s no longer working for us, it’s no longer serving us in our lives.

We come to a realization that:

                           Maybe it’s time to ADMIT  it’s no longer working

It is really not easy to admit why things aren’t working. Because it is a HUGE shift in identity when you realize that something is not working.

Questions that come up:

  • What am I going to do with it?
  • How am I going to move forward inside of that?

In order to really LIVE FULLY  inside of my life, it is really important that I am able to REFINE & DEFINE what it is that is working or no longer working inside of my life

What I am inviting you to do:

  • Identify what it is that is no longer working in your life
  • Make a list of 3 things that you are aware are no longer working

Please share your thoughts about this with me!

This is a big topic of conversation within me, and a lot of my clients.

                            It is time to admit: What’s working & what’s not working?



Ps. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this. Leave a comment below to let me know if you have any additional tips to share on making bold decisions.

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