Why Being Selfless Is Actually Selfish

You cannot give something you do not have and we all need your personal magic, so please, let your greatest path of serving the world, start with you.
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Did you know your happiness is your only job?

Yup. Really.

It is no one else's responsibility to make you happy and on the same note, it is not your responsibility to make anyone else happy.

Your number one most important priority must be your happiness. And if it's not...why not?

So, let me ask you.

When a situation arises and you get upset, stop and ask yourself. Is this worth it?

Is this drama over priorities, lunch, or who is right worth it?

Is it worth my happiness?

I can hear you now, saying I could never think that, it is selfish. What about serving others and a higher cause? What about being a good person?!

I hear you, but let me put it in a new perspective for you?

It is actually selfish not to put your happiness first and here is why.

Think about it, when you are happy, you naturally give more, your vibration is higher, so you attract more opportunities, people, resources and experiences to share the vibration.

You lift others up naturally just by being there because happiness is contagious.

You laugh more and trigger your creative juices.

You can more easily find solutions to problems and you share with joy.

There is a subconscious focus on what can I give when you are happy.

When you are tired, frustrated, burnt out or crabby, you naturally focus on what is wrong in a situation.

You have a harder time finding solutions to simple challenges, you bring others down with you (because misery loves company), you make more mistakes and silently resent having to help or give wondering when is it your turn.

There is a subconscious focus on what can I get when you are unhappy.

There is an energetic exchange happening, it is you who determines what type of energy you are swapping.

Have you ever worked with someone who always complained and whined about being there, they didn't do their share of the work, and made lots of mistakes, when you asked them for something, it was like all the effort in the world to do it? Didn't you just want to tell them to go home and forget about it?

Have you ever worked with the person who was in a great mood and cracked jokes while she worked? She did more than her share and didn't even notice. She found a way to have fun even if the job wasn't that exciting. She made the time fly by and the project was done with ease and turned out awesome!

It is no coincidence that the "pollyanna" creates a better experience.

You see, each of these attitudes is a choice.

When you look at the most humanitarian, giving people on the planet, you will see a connection. They all make their happiness a priority. They know they cannot serve and give to those in need if they are one of them.

One of the key reasons people give is to help others feel happier.

You cannot give something you do not have and we all need your personal magic, so please, let your greatest path of serving the world, start with you.

You can find more Practical Tools for Sacred Living by Jenean Zunk at www.namastelivingonline.com/blog.

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