Why I Chose To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife

Couple sitting on sofa watching television
Couple sitting on sofa watching television

Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

I am what others would call old school. I believe in the traditional household where the man works and provides for his family while the woman stays home and tends to the house and children. (Read about our ttc story)

I take great delight in serving my husband and try to be the best wife I can be to him. I think there is a delusion in being a stay at home wife, as if wives sit at home and spend all of their husband's money. A marriage is a union, where each person serves the other in different aspects. But ultimately we serve the Lord.

As the bible verse above says, just like Christ is the head of the church, the husband is the head of the wife and household. I positively feel we are equal partners in decision making and family matters, but I do think there is a distinction and every household needs someone in the leadership role. My job is to serve my husband and I don't think I would want it any other way.

I think the most important thing to take from this, is to know serving your husband isn't to lose a part of yourself. But instead it is to be more Christ-like and remember your marriage was a vow made before God, so treat it as the most precious thing.

The word serve is a commonly misconstrued, as if I am doting on him hand and foot. I believe to serve your husband is more to give as much as he does into the marriage. To serve him is to love him unconditionally and take care of things in the household. We both put in work and 100% of our effort which allows us to work together seamlessly.


While he works for the military, my duties all are related to taking care of our home. I blog, do all the cooking, and keep the house clean. Also, during our first year of marriage I was going to school and I am now planning on going back soon. I also volunteered for my husband's unit and was the FRG leader.

There are great sacrifices that come with one spouse staying home, with living off just one income it can cause a little more stress in the marriage. Just remember to keep everything mutual. If he is serving and providing for the home, you need to be serving and providing for the household as well.

Below, I have linked The Family: A Proclamation to the World, which is still one of my favorite things released by the church.

Amy Stratton is a lifestyle blogger, who writes about the army wife life and everything in between. Keep up with her and her family on thestrattons.weebly.com to get biweekly posts on being a military spouse, food, beauty, marriage, and religion. Also, check out instagram.com/thestrattons for an overload of selfies and pictures of her husband!