Why I Stopped Waiting: 3 Ways to Be Happy Now

While living in Milan, Italy, I discovered that I was not seeking happiness, happiness was seeking me. It has always been in and with me. I made an important shift that I shouldn't be trying to find happiness, I should be living happily now.
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Thinking back to a few years ago, when I believed that my happiness would come on the following terms:

  • When I met the man of my dreams,
  • When I had more money and the business I always dreamed,

I realized I was literally waiting to live. It always felt like I was in a constant state of waiting and that was frustrating. I wanted to travel more but I was waiting to do it with the man of my dreams. I was even afraid achieving my highest success in business because I thought if I did I would intimidate the man who would share my life.

All of these were limiting beliefs that kept me in the same place for several years. One day while cleaning out my closet, I found a folder with an old newspaper interview I did after graduating top of my class from university. I told the reporter my future goal was to start my own business, seeing that article made me emotional and opened a floodgate of desire to take action now. In that moment I finally decided to stand in my power, resigned my full time job to start the business I always dreamt of. I also eventually moved to Europe.

While living in Milan, Italy, I discovered that I was not seeking happiness, happiness was seeking me. It has always been in and with me. I made an important shift that I shouldn't be trying to find happiness, I should be living happily now. In that place of accepting that my happiness was not dependent on anything outside of myself (a job, a man or anything else), I began to allow more and to find joy in my own presence.

I travelled more alone and embraced the experience of learning different cultures by myself. My life dramatically changed as I changed my limiting beliefs about what would bring me happiness and I started to live in the now. Basking in my own joy, I now have the most amazing man in my life and began experiencing more success in my business and fulfillment through my work as a brand strategist. I am also a life and business coach for female entrepreneurs who want to build their brand and life styled for freedom at hannafitz.com.

I made meditation part of my routine and as a believer in the power of affirmations I wrote my first book, I AM THE GATEKEEPER 101 daily keys to unlock your happiness, overcome adversity and fulfil your purpose to help others have the daily doses of encouragement needed to live fully in your personal power and truth.

Here are three keys that helped me unlock happiness in my life and I hope it will help bring you inner peace and joy:

#1 Speaking Into The Now: So often we speak using the future tense "I hope someday I will get better". Try changing your language to the present tense "I am getting better". You see, when you speak using the present tense, you are impressing on your subconscious mind that whatever you want is happening now.

You are not saying that it has happened (surely that little negative voice will remind you of your current state), you are saying that it is happening and that is powerful. As a gatekeeper of your life, you have to speak with authority, knowing that you are creating and recreating with every word. It's amazing how impressing new ideas into your subconscious mind, helps you often unconsciously take the right steps.

#2 Stay Present: Try not to be too preoccupied with the future and what will happen next. Set goals for what you want to achieve and focus on the daily actions that will help you achieve those goals. Instead of worrying about the future, ask yourself "what can I do today to create the tomorrow, next week and the next year that I desire?" Life is about asking the right questions at the right time.

Today has something to show you, to teach you and to give you. Focus on making the most of today and the future will take shape accordingly. If you can't be trusted to be happy with what you have now, how can you be trusted with more. When you can be happy at every stage of your journey more joy and happiness will find its way to you.

#3 Feel Joy No Matter What: Challenges will always present themselves in your life, but how you deal with them is a matter of choice. Feel joy now because you were born to overcome any challenge that you face. Challenges come to test what you already know or shift your thinking/actions, see them for what they are and with utter faith know that you will and must succeed.

Take time to quiet your mind daily from all the negativity; seek inner guidance, let go and trust that the answer will come or the path will show up. Life is about trust; trusting that divine intelligence knows the fastest, quickest way to all that you desire. You're not alone, you're never alone, so start living your happiest life now!

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