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Why We're Waiting to Have a Second Child

Around my daughter's first birthday I already started hearing those words. "Are you going to have another one?" or "When are you going to have another baby?" Some people don't mean to be so in your face, but really it's none of their business :) I guess most parents start considering a 2nd child after the first birthday.
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Around my daughter's first birthday I already started hearing those words. "Are you going to have another one?" or "When are you going to have another baby?" Some people don't mean to be so in your face, but really it's none of their business :) I guess most parents start considering a 2nd child after the first birthday. The first birthday is a HUGE milestone itself! When it came down to it, my husband and I decided to wait. I know some of you have kids back to back and more power to you! For us, it's just what made sense. We both wanted more kids but not right away.

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Money: Money was a big factor. We are both teachers. I cannot image paying for childcare X 2 kids! That would basically be an entire pay check for one of us! We couldn't do that! Not to mention all the diapers and formula and other kid expenses. My baby bills were $$$ and it took time to pay off those debts.

Getting Pregnant: Physically getting pregnant was not the easiest for me. When we finally decided we were ready to have kids, it just didn't happen over night like it does for some! I had to do fertility treatments for both of my pregnancies. When we did decide it would be okay to have a 2nd baby I actually did get pregnant (without fertility) but at 7 weeks I lost the baby. It was such a sad time in my life. We had a lot of stressful things going on in our lives at the time so it took awhile to even feel up to trying again. I was scared to death of having another miscarriage. Once you experience that, you NEVER want to have that happen again. I know so many of you can relate to this. I was so scared.

Attention: I wanted to give our sweet girl all the love and attention we could. That time we had with just her is something my husband and I will never forget. It was just the 3 of us for 5 and 1/2 years! We had lots of fun together and didn't take any of that for granted.

Finally when the timing was right and all the stars lined up for us (with a few months of fertility treatments) I got pregnant. I was literally scared the entire pregnancy. In the end it all worked out and was incredibly smooth and easy, but I still worried! At 5 and 1/2 years old our darling daughter became a big sister. She was literally the happiest little thing on the planet! She was at the perfect age to help out, and boy did she like to help. A little too much :) Really it was the best thing for her, becoming a sister.

Don't listen to what others say. You know your family and what is best for you.

How far apart are your kids? Would you change anything?

Shannon is Mommy to 2 kids, Wife, and Teacher. Find her writing at Daily Momtivity.