When you were courting your girl, you were on your best behavior. You made plans for dinner, invited her to the movies, and took her to the club. And she had a great time because you were attentive, charming and hilarious. Okay, maybe your jokes weren't that funny... but you made her smile. And when you looked into her eyes, glanced at her lips, inched closer... and kissed her for the first time... she felt desirable.
As time goes by, you find that you spend more time at home because you can't be bothered to waste money at the club... to listen to the same music and to see the same people. But when you wanted to have sex with her for the first time... you were on the dance floor till they started to play Celine Dion.
How ironic it is that when your boys ask you to go out, you're instantly energized and forget about your budget? The lure of meeting and dancing with new girls is enticing, even if you have to listen to same music and see the same people.
Women like to have fun. After a hard week of work (or exams) it's nice to de-stress with a few glasses of wine. Or when she's on vacation, it's relaxing to take an out-of-town trip. And sure, she should be independent, but being independent doesn't mean she should always go out with her girlfriends because you can't afford to take her, and being independent certainly doesn't mean she should perpetually foot the bill for the both of you.
To live comfortably, it's natural for a woman to prefer a man with money because, together, they can afford to live a better life. And this does not mean she's materialistic. People always say that "money can't buy happiness" but every single woman I know wants to travel, and to the best of my knowledge, this isn't free. In fact, perhaps, the most defining moment in a couple's life is when they're in front of the pastor saying "I do" and -- for the record -- the wedding reception isn't free.
Now don't get me wrong, it's nice to stay at home and chill with your girl. It's even nicer if, in the middle of a TV series, she leans into you, rests her head on your chest and falls asleep in your arms. You simply can't buy wonderful pleasures like cuddling. And these pleasures are the backbone of a relationship.
But you must understand that there are things she'd like to experience. And let's also be real, a girl loves an ambitious man. His ability to take control of situations, his drive to be successful, his sense of responsibility -- these attributes are a big turn on.
Now, let me be clear: When you've just met a good woman, she doesn't expect you to have money. That's not why she's dating you. And of course, she'll stay by your side during the difficult times. But at some point, you need to fulfill your potential and aspire to improve yourself in your profession. Because if you love her, you would work your ass off to ensure that, together, you get to tick off a few bucket list items -- to ensure that, together, you can enjoy weekend outings and to ensure that, together, you can provide for your children.
If a woman prefers her man to have money,it doesn't necessarily mean that she's a gold digger. It can simply mean that she wants to experience life with you.