If allowed to grow and lead to true love and lasting happiness, very few of us would
knowingly wish to sabotage a relationship.
There are lots of women, though, who unknowingly sabotage what may have been a great relationship before it ever has a real chance to grow.
If you don't think you've ever done this, take a look at these six acts of dating sabotage and ask yourself honestly: "Did I do that?"
1. You blame the circumstances:
--"There are no good men in my city."
--"Good men don't want to date women my age."
--"I intimidate men."
2. You're leaking. Leaking that you're desperate to be in a relationship and anyone will do. It's the vibe you're putting out of which you're not even aware. It is a man repellant.
3. You're tossing him back too soon. There's no way to tell if someone is a match on a first date. Unless he's told you that he deals crack cocaine for a living, going out with him at least three times before making such a decision is a good rule of thumb. First dates are nerve racking for many, so, give him the benefit of the doubt. You could be missing out on a quality man just because sparks didn't fly which, on a first meeting is unrealistic.
4. You're being too open with your baggage. Oversharing is a date killer. I encourage you to go with an open heart and let your guard down. But, no one wants to hear someone's autobiography on a first, second or even third date.
5. You pursue him. You snatch the pursuer role. Some men will tell you that they like being pursued. That's because it's easy, fun and they don't have to do ANY work to win you over. You should know that it's fleeting because he'll get bored and move on.
6. You pressure him. One of the biggest complaints men have in dating is that women can't be in the moment. It's the third date and you can't resist the urge to have "the talk" about the state of the relationship and the direction it's going. Reality check: you hardly know each other. What could possibly compel you to give up meeting someone else who is a better match for you?
A woman's lack of success in dating has very little to do with the men she dates. Instead, it has to do with how she approaches dating. The common denominator in her dating experiences is herself. It is her self-worth that reveals itself in all of these sabotaging ways.
I used to make these same missteps until I recognized my part in the process and got support with a personalized, customized approach that my girlfriends and family weren't able to provide.
As a result, my way of attracting the kind of man I wanted in my life changed and opened up new possibilities.
To start dating like the amazing woman you are examine the self-limiting beliefs and fears that are driving your behavior.
Relationships are a reflection of what's going on inside of you. If you change what's happening inside of you, your experience in dating and relationships will change, too.
It's all within your control.