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Why You Should Stop Having Good Intentions in 2015 and Beyond

So what are you waiting for in life? Why aren't you acting now? No, really, why aren't you? That's a serious question that requires you to think about it in depth.
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"I'll be there at 7:00 ..." (but you arrive at 8:00).

"I'll donate to that charity next month ..." (but you forget).

"I'll start eating right and exercising on January 1st to lose 30 pounds ... " (but by January 15th you've gone back to your old habits).

"I hate my job, so I'm going to start my own business ..." (but you get comfortable, lazy and don't bother).

Are you a person who follows through with your word and your intentions? When you commit to something, do you actually do it? When you speak of living your dreams, do you actually follow through?

If you answered "no" to some of these questions, you are not alone. Most people don't have a good track record for following through with their good intentions. Why is that? Have you ever thought about it? Have you ever thought about the consequences of not carrying out your intentions?

You're probably thinking, "Oh, come on, Carol. What's wrong with good intentions? It's better to have good intentions than to not have them at all. Right?"

Nope. Not in my opinion.

Here's a life lesson for us all: Don't live a life of good intentions. Yes, you heard me correctly. Don't live a life of good intentions! Live a life that gets you results!

I'm certainly not perfect. I struggle with my intentions in some areas of my life as well. My biggest problem? Exercise. Working out. Eating super healthy (I aim for super healthy, but I usually end up average, or slightly above average). That's probably because I come from a family who hates exercise and didn't really teach us how to go organic.

One thing that I am good at, however, is following through with my word. You can ask anyone I know -- and they would probably all agree -- that if I say I'm going to do it, they can count on me to actually do it. That's because I know that my actions affect other people. In my mind, if I commit to something, then I daggone better do it. Otherwise, I will say, "Let me think about it and get back to you."

Maybe a lot of you are like me in that regard, and maybe you are not. But here's another very important question ...

Do you keep your commitments to yourself?

If you don't, then you are betraying yourself. That might sound like an extreme statement, but it's true. You are letting yourself down just as much as you would let down another person who you committed to. Why are you any less important?

That's where my struggle comes in sometimes. If I don't keep my exercise/eating healthy promises to myself, then why bother? I might as well not even tried to fool myself into thinking I would do it. That's why I try to commit to myself just as much as I do other people. It's not always easy, but it can be done

If you don't keep promises to yourself, it just hurts your self-esteem in the long run. Somewhere, deep down, you think, "See? I knew I couldn't do it! Shame one me!"

Well, I want you, right here, right now, to commit to living a life of action, commitment and follow-through! Good intentions don't get you anywhere. Many people in the world are the "all talk and no action" type. But what's the point? You might as well not even have a good intention to begin with.

There is a phrase that I love: The Point of Power is Now. In other words, now is all we have. Yesterday is a memory, and tomorrow is still unrealized. So the only time we have to act is now. So just do "it," whatever "it" is for you.

If something is really important to you, you'll get to it right away. For example, I'm sure if a reliable psychic told you that you would purchase the winning lottery ticket for next week's drawing, you wouldn't hesitate to go out and but that ticket now!!! Right? Yeah, of course you wouldn't.

So what are you waiting for in life? Why aren't you acting now? No, really, why aren't you? That's a serious question that requires you to think about it in depth.

I want you all to examine your hopes and dreams, whether they are new or being re-discovered. Life is about action. Life is about moving forward. And life is about positive challenge. And it's virtually impossible to do any of that without commitment and follow-through ... to yourself and to others.

If you don't have positive challenge and change, then you stagnate. So commit to some positive goals, and then go accomplish them!