The Future of Work
Three Things Forward-Thinking Companies Need to Know to Attract Millennial Independent Workers in 2016
Companies winning the war for the best Millennial independent workers understand: MBO Partners recently released five years
The peaceful, balanced, and kind Suku totally lost it. He got so pissed off that he went into some sort of angry trance. When he woke up there were a lot of casualties around him. Almost anything he could have done would have been better. But in that moment, he was hijacked by his emotions.
You can't be rational if you are too emotional. But you can't be rational if you are not emotional. When you are too emotional, you don't want to do what you know is best. When you are too emotional, you don't want to use the techniques you know will make things better.
Have you ever postponed an argument with your spouse because "the kids might hear us?" If so, you might have taken the third person perspective. That means that you would have put yourself in their shoes and imagined what they would think and feel if they heard your conversation.
Shane's unfiltered thoughts are toxic. They won't improve the work, will harm the relationship and betray his cherished values of respect and compassion.
How often could you productively get together with your colleagues and ask, "How are we working together? Is there anything I could do to make your work better? Or to improve our relationship? Or to help increase your well-being and happiness?"
To start with criticism, follow with orders and end with threats is not effective. "It's your fault. You broke it, so you better fix it!" is a really bad way to go. We're on the same boat; we float or we sink together.
To improve the performance, the relationship and the well-being of both of you, you must convey information about the impact of your counterpart's behavior on the goal and on you. But to maximize the value of this information you need to share it non-judgmentally.
Tara wants to confront her teammates, but she's worried that bringing up this potentially explosive issue can make things even worse. In the following video, I help Tara prepare to discuss the issue with her teammates and re-establish effectiveness, trust and integrity.
Obedience to external rules is a terrible way to work, and an equally terrible way to live. If at all avoidable, it's best to eschew it.