advice for parents

Feeling anxious about leaving your kids when you go out? Worried about sending them off to school or daycare?
Motherhood -- and writing -- ain't for sissies. There are the sweet, breakthrough moments of inspiration or mastering the bicycle. But, most days are filled with the hard work of first drafts and runny noses.
am most certainly a different person than I was before I embarked on our infertility journey over 13 years ago.
Right up until last week, I really convinced myself that once son number two had finished school, I was pretty much done as a parent. In 2022 I'd go back to my life as a 32-year-old, circa 2002.
Allowing your underage child a sip of your wine or that last drop of your beer sends a small, but potent, message. It says a little taste of alcohol is OK. It is approval.
I know there is a lot of great stuff out there about how you're supposed to carpe diem or not carpe diem or how we're supposed to stop yelling or cut ourselves a break. Here is what I want to say to you today.
When you play "What if..." with positive statements, you give yourself an opportunity to nourish yourself in the now.
When we have children, we know that we'll be parents for life, but what we don't realize is that you're on call 24/7 and that never ends. When they have problems, you have to be there. When they eventually go off on their own and have problems, guess who they're calling?
"Happy Holidays!" "Happy Hanukkah!" Even in our greetings, this time of year come with a lot of expectations. For many families, the "happy" and "merry" expectations can cause great stress and anxiety -- not just for you as an adult, but for your children, too.
Why do we struggle so to say NO? We don't want our kids to be mad at us. We don't want to disappoint them. We don't want to sit in the blistering storm of their rage.
The most important thing to remember is that we have a choice. We can actively choose to be friendly instead of harsh. The trick is to have a strategy in place. I call this a calm-down plan, which helps when you don't feel friendly.
The relationship between a parent and a child is the weirdest relationship you will ever have. It is close and intimate. It is cold and distant, with hearts raw and broken. And this could vary not by the year or the day, but by the moment.
It's a hard message for today's modern family to remember, but an important one: a busy family does not necessarily make a happy family.
earning to recognize how our parents influenced us may be the most effective way of preparing for the job ahead. What did your parents do that you remember most positively? Were there hugs at night? Surprise trips to the ice cream store? Goofy family photos?
Remind me to "enjoy this time," and that the day I let go of them will be here all too soon. But then? Tell me how beautiful it is to watch them fly.
What have your kids or grandkids taught you? Tell us in comments. "How much better off would I be if I had focused on moments
Teaching children about their feelings -- to recognize them, to name them, to express them appropriately -- is an important part of being a parent.
Children have a heavy burden to bear when they feel that their performance is connected with the love they receive and they are letting down their parents if they are not successful.