Each person is on his own in this race of individual endeavors that include swimming, biking and running. These activities are not done holding hands. There are no teammates. Even the training is individualized, and so are the results.
But in the end I think that's okay. There's healing to do, and asking is how we begin.
It's almost a relief to be one of the believers, because then, on the days when we wonder if we're too small to matter, we can remember that we're actually so big that we don't even fit inside ourselves.
Some of us are lucky enough to give up the search. I think Jeff was one of these lucky ones. I think by the time he met Alexandra, this young man had already grown into himself, and I think in her he found what he was searching for.