However, certain people have the inherent tendency to suffer from romantic loss more than others, and research suggests that this might have something to do with our attachment style.

My point here is not to insinuate that all of our current reactions are merely reactions to our past. It's simply to offer a new way of looking at the world that can help us make sense of some of our perceptions that may be off and to alter our behavior accordingly.

As we look into our attachment history and the implications it may have for how we relate as adults, it's important to practice self-compassion. To change our attachment style will mean working on making sense of the most painful parts of our childhood.