Growing up, people often called me bossy. I soon realized that they called me bossy because I was determined to succeed and overcome any obstacles that came my way.
Sheryl and her crew are right about one thing: Words do matter. The attitudes we attached to them are real and powerful. But
To me, "bossy" could easily have many connotations. I believe someone who is bossy as a leader; someone who doesn't easily give in to submission, nor do they take defeat as an easy way out. It's a term of empowerment.
There are so many serious issues that face women today. There is a worldwide epidemic of abuse, trafficking, oppression on a grand scale. Being called "bossy," in my opinion, is not one of them.
This Women's History Month, with all the women I admire and the next generation, I hope to inspire in tow, I thank my mom for being a woman who leads, creates and stands, who embraces her bossy, and who understands that "well-behaved women rarely make history."
While I am sympathetic of the motives behind the Ban Bossy campaign, I propose reclaiming the rhetoric instead of banning the word.
I'm the entire Ban Bossy campaign and controversy rolled into a mom.
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg says that little girls who are told they are "bossy" should be told instead that they have "leadership potential." Ms. Sandberg's intentions are good, but she's confused about what being "bossy" really means. Her campaign to "Ban Bossy" is misguided and misses the mark.
Being called bossy is no fun. And I'm all for people not using the word "bossy" as negative shorthand for girls trying to flex their burgeoning leadership skills. But as one friend mentioned to me, maybe a better approach is teaching our girls to "stand up," rather than making them believe we can change the behavior of others.
Sheryl Sandberg knows business, media and academia, and she knows what limits women in these areas. She's putting her expertise to use where it has the greatest influence. Whether Ban Bossy effectively changes how girls are labeled for all time, or increases the confidence of just a few, it's work worthy of praise.