being a mom
I am certain those around me consider me "social media and technology obsessed." They are right. I am. Here is the thing, my biggest fear in life is that I will forget moments in time.
Most of us don't think twice about hopping in the shower or running a load of dishes in the dishwasher. But for Flint, Michigan, resident Melissa Mays, 37, these daily acts are fraught with anxiety and fear
I do not live in the moment. You know what I am describing? The moments where there are no cell phones or laptops. Moments where the only form of entertainment is my little one's face starring at me.
The first few weeks of motherhood, while they were very sweet, were also such a transformation. Every single aspect of the person I was moments before my baby entered the world seemed gone. I acted differently, I cared differently and I thought differently. I was forever changed.
At 52 years old, I'm a daughter, wife, stepmother, sister, aunt and friend. I am all of these things and I am grateful. However, the one thing I am not is a mother. Years ago, I made the decision not to have children. What I failed to do, however, was listen to the voice of my future self.
Reflect back to the last 10 years of your life and write down all that has happened during each of those years; review what you have written and come up with a theme for those experiences. Okay, you don't HAVE to come up with themes, but I think it's a fun experiment.
I remember telling my mom I hated her when I was a teenager. I am sure it hurt her more then she let on, because if my son tells me that one day, I would be devastated. I will probably call her and tell her all about it. Because she will understand.
We can't say it's hard. We can't cry over the pressure. We are supposed to grin and bear it. It's no wonder so many snap, so many are depressed, so many take this pent-up rage and resentment out on their kids. I'm not saying it's right. I'm saying I understand, carajo.
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