Here's the quote from the ABC News interview that gutted me. But I have to respond to a recent news story about bereaved
It's a club no one wants to join, yet so many people are part of. We are all brought together by one common event; one that many of us would consider to be the worst day of our lives. And while it may seem like your world is caving in, this club is living proof that you will survive.
If you meet me now at the grocery store or pass me in church, I probably won't cry. I will most likely ask you how you are, what you've been doing and smile when you share the latest family news even if in the midst of the words a thousand alarms go off in my head, reminding me of the son that I lost.
Music brought our family together during extraordinarily difficult times. As music filled Micah's hospital room, the songs nurtured our relationships. We bonded over music because it gave us a shared experience - that wasn't about the next medical procedure.
When my son died, I didn't get a manual on what to do. I didn't get an orientation into how to be a grieving parent. So when some people asked how they could help me and my family, I really didn't know. For those that want to help, here is a list of 31 ways you can provide practical and timely help to grieving parents:
Have you grieved the too-soon, unexpected, violent end of your hopes and dreams without a chance to say, "good-bye"? Do you stand over the patch of dirt that now covers the buried body of your son and wonder how this happened?
Please give the gift of your time to that very special person in your life and please be mindfully present while doing so. I promise you at some point down the road, you'll look back with an incredible feeling that you too, had your own Christmas miracle reveal itself-- in a most magical, unexpected way.
We took our baby girl home from the hospital soon after we took her off life support. We signed "Do Not Resuscitate" documents and we were assigned hospice care especially for children. It took 21 days. With each cavernous minute, I prayed for death to be swift.