"Four days is the average bereavement leave allotted for the death of a spouse or child. It’s now been more than 100 days and if I remember to shower, brush my teeth and eat food, it is a very good day."
During the Covid-19 pandemic, families around the world have moved their funerary traditions online.
Karen Meredith’s son Ken was killed in Iraq in 2003. She told us what it was like getting a letter of condolence from President George W. Bush and gave her reaction to President Trump’s comments following the deaths of four green berets in Niger.
You can't "remind" someone of their pain, she points out.
It will hurt to be around family and friends with living children.
Each of these families made decisions that feel right for them for this year. The diversity in their choices illustrates
This playlist brings back wonderful memories of my uncle and me. You can read more in Passed and Present: Keeping Memories
So I suggest that, if it feels right to do, a widow or widower might write things, say things aloud, or say things in their mind to the spouse who has died. And making that part of the routine of going to be bed or first being in bed might be especially valuable.
Age is irrelevant to me. Sharp minds usually stay sharp. It's the ears that stop listening or don't listen at all that bothers me and, I'm sure, that all the grieving parents in Arizona want is to get the same unpaid time off as someone who has a child, or cares for a sick family member, or service member. It's not about business, it's about compassion.
It is impossible to explain to others who haven’t experienced losing a parent what it feels like. How much a parent can be
Words. Words have the power to build us up and to tear us down. They bring joy and laughter, sometimes sadness, sometimes
When you lose somebody you love it can be very painful and may even have long term consequences. You may feel alone and lost
In the winter of 1994, rather suddenly, I found myself widowed. With a ten year-old son and a thirteen year-old daughter
I don’t know how it happened. I’ve connected with a young widow newer on this journey than I.  My dear wister (widow sister
There's a grief no one talks about. There’s no section in the card store for it and there’s no flower arrangement for it
t can be comforting to write out a card or poem expressing your sentiments and then decide what you will do with it. Do something traditional, or create new traditions. I'd love to hear your thoughts and ideas.
In my work, I highly advise my clients to share their passwords with another significant person. Yes, I know you are not supposed to do this. Yes, I know it is risky. Yes, they too may die.