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bi coming out
I'd like to be free to consider myself a gay man who's fundamentally bisexual or a bisexual who's primarily gay. I don't know that it matters which I choose, or if I choose. What matters to me is coming to the most authentic expression of who I truly am and living from that place, openly.
Ever since college, when I slowly came to grips with my bisexual identity, I have had a fear in the back of my mind. In every relationship, a little voice has always been there, questioning, "If you commit to one gender, won't you miss the other genders?"
What may surprise most of the people whom I come out to is that the most difficult criticism I face for identifying as bisexual comes from the LGBT community itself.
I've been out as bisexual to myself and my world for about 15 years, acknowledging that I am able to love both men and women. One of the things I have learned through these years is that being out as bi tends to make me a stranger across the spectrum of sexual orientation.
WHAT'S HAPPENING
WHAT'S HAPPENING
Author Bert Archer joins Josh to talk about how everyone may have a little bit of bisexuality inside of them.
This month's question came from a reader who has been struggling to come out to her parents as bisexual, because they view bisexuals as "cheating gross people who should only stick to either same sex or opposite sex partners." She is looking for ways to educate them.
Reach out and join the bisexual community. Knowing them -- knowing us -- will help you, and by joining the community you also make it larger, and thus you make it easier for the next bi guy to come out and be himself on his own terms.
I often find myself wondering why the hell people have to come out as lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB). Heterosexual people never come out as straight, so why must we make an announcement?
It's almost a "chicken or the egg" question: Does society and the LGBT community at large need to become more accepting before bisexuals come out en masse, or do bisexuals need to come out before more acceptance is possible?
The coming-out stages for many bisexual people are complex and often take years to complete. While everyone's experience is different, over time I've seen some commonalities for bi folks making their journey to freedom.
