Clarification: Babymama is NOT my biological mother, but a birth mother we met two days before she gave birth to the infant
Many birth mothers highly recommend writing as part of the adoption process. For example, as you are deciding what's best
Adoption can be a joyous and beautiful process that creates love and family. However, with every adoption and every union, there is also loss, a biological parent being separated from their child. Even if a birthparent is happy with her choice of adoption, there is still a grieving process.
Every one of us has at least one woman who served a part in our being here and/or being raised to the best of their ability. May we open our hearts to ALL mothers - not just those who might be featured in a Hallmark special.
This year, I invite you to join me in thinking more broadly about mothering, and in passing along these Mother's Day sentiments.
The path to motherhood is wide and varied. On Mother's Day, we recognize that mothers come in all shapes and sizes. Yet we often neglect to honor and remember birth mothers who make an adoption plan for their babies after they are born.
The reality is that during the mid-20th century and beyond, severe religious, social and familial stigmas against unwed motherhood were the norm far beyond Ireland.
“I was 21 when I became pregnant,” Toy relates. “The baby’s father was a fellow student. We had no interest in getting married
If we could somehow time-travel and meet our mothers when they were 8-year-olds who were afraid of thunder storms, or college students in love with the wrong man, or young mothers-to-be awaiting our births, all that we believe that we know would likely replaced by a different vision.
There are five little names on a chain around my neck. Three of those names belong to the babies I bore biologically, and two of those little names are babies I got to raise for a short time and then let them go.
As our country has focused enormous attention in recent days on the rights of one minority, gay men and lesbians, we continue (alas) to give short-shrift to the decades-long effort to achieve equality for millions of people in another segment of our population: Americans who were adopted into their families.
Just like women who choose abortion, women who make an adoption plan are subject to shame, coercion, misinformation, unfavorable laws, and the politicization of their choice. It is here that the reproductive rights movement may recognize a role for itself.