If the mother after birth starts to doubt the adoption, bring in help like a local adoption lawyer to put pressure on the
"We weren't abandoned; we were chosen."
Adoption can be a joyous and beautiful process that creates love and family. However, with every adoption and every union, there is also loss, a biological parent being separated from their child. Even if a birthparent is happy with her choice of adoption, there is still a grieving process.
In July 2002, I woke up doubled over in pain. I couldn't eat, I couldn't drink, and I could barely breathe. I went to my doctor and she immediately did an ultrasound on my kidneys and liver. She was certain I had a kidney infection. Four days later, the doctor called and said, "Congratulations! You're 22 weeks pregnant. Please come in for a consult as soon as possible. Goodbye."
When I started this search 20 years ago, this is what I knew: When I was two months old, I was adopted through the Elizabeth Lund Home in Burlington, Vermont; my birthparents were young teenagers; my birthmother was white; my birthfather was black. That's all.