I have spent some months at the end of this year frustrated about a relationship with a family member that had gone badly
Resist the urge to fall into this common trap.
Backs, shoulders, necks, ankles, feet, wrists, or knees were damaged. Bones were broken. Such injuries are often terrible for the person who is injured. They are also often terrible for the person's bed-sharing partner and the couple's bed-sharing relationship.
Everyone's lost their temper at a partner over something completely unrelated to them.
Rarely are the parents given guidance on how to handle their own feelings about their child's problems and actions and many parent-child arguments and conflicts ensue which only worsen the child's shame and confusion.
The truth is: Without a genuine willingness to let in the suffering of others, our spiritual practice remains empty.
Now, rather than being locked inside her tormenting thoughts, Marian could remember the possibility of compassion. When remorse
Enjoy this talk on: The Dance of Relational Trance Jeff nodded his agreement. "I realized that it's not about getting from
We might think that admitting fault is weak or that it lets the other person off the hook for his or her faults. But actually, it takes a strong person to admit fault and it puts us in a stronger position with others.
While it is extremely difficult to admit when we make mistakes, honesty and humility are what make for a sincere apology.
The moment I deeply got that I was the source for all the yuck (and all the great) in my life as opposed to pointing the finger at others was the moment I got I could do something about it.
If it's true that "everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need," what needs do judgment and blame serve?
Chances are, you are woefully unprepared for that upcoming interview and you don't even know it. Talking points rehearsed
Think of someone you feel wronged by: can you find a case against that person in your mind? What's it feel like to go into that case? What does it cost you? And others?
Letting go of blame allows us to be free, to take back our power and to avoid the trap of thinking that someone or something else has the ability to dictate our experience of life. Whether our life is "wonderful" or "difficult" is always up to us.
Choosing to whine and blame is a choice just as much as choosing to do something about your circumstances, but one is more likely to produce a meaningful result than the other.