breaking bad habits

During six years of research for our upcoming book, Micro-Resilience, we've come across and shared many insights that contribute to breakthrough performance.
Your bad habits are putting your life, your health, your career, or your relationships in jeopardy. You know they're there, and you want to get rid of them--but you also know from experience that it's just not that easy.
“What if instead of fighting our brains,” he asks, “ … we just got really curious about what was happening in our momentary
We live in a culture that shouts in our ear that we must become successful. That we must kill any "averageness" within us, and replace it with boldness, exceptionalism and success. (After all, "settling" is practically the worst crime you could possibly commit in our self improvement culture.)
For my twentieth wedding anniversary, I got a beautiful diamond solitaire. It stands high and proud, cradled in its six prongs, throwing sparkles in every direction from the light bouncing off its the facets.
Think about one guilty pleasure you have and come up with a creative way to look for other ways to meet your needs. Remember be creative. Your solution should be fun and interesting, because the more fun, the more likely it is that it will work.
Not only do we devalue "sorry" when we use it unnecessarily, but we also devalue ourselves.
For the first year after the divorce was final, my auto-response to just about every question that flew out of the mouths of my three sons was "YES!" It was an automatic, rapid-fire and knee-jerk reaction to each and every query.
The unconscious fears that rule our lives have been hidden away for so long in most cases that we have no idea of their programming running in the background. Fear is usually our default program.
1. First, notice it. We fall into patterns because we fail to face reality. We return to the same bad situation, hoping that
"It's known as the science of small wins," he said. "We know that if you have this sense of momentum, of victory, it makes
7) "Biting my nails!!! I had stopped after 63 years, but then I had chemo, and they all fell off, so I bite whatever is left
An important part of beating addiction is to identify what is driving people to use the "poison" of choice in the first place
When I coach people on the obstacles that may be slowing them down or even sabotaging their dreams, often it comes down to behaviors that can be easily corrected. But it begins with honestly assessing and recognizing what it is.
Breaking a bad habit is never easy, but you can make it a lot easier by making negative mental associations and by replacing bad habits with good. Before you know it, you won't have that bad habit anymore, and you'll feel empty if you miss your workout or walk, instead!
But gender aside, there is one trait many "stress-shoppers" have in common: They tend to seek distracting, temporary fixes
Have you given up on your New Year's resolutions yet? One of the main reasons that New Year's resolutions are so often forgotten before January is out is that they usually require habit change.
Whether it's junk food, alcohol, unhealthy relationships, retail therapy or worse, everyone has a soft spot for something idiotically harmful. True stupidity, though, is not only being complicit in our demise but actively hastening it.
From Live Better America
With holiday tasks to accomplish, work projects to be finished, and family obligations to be met, realize that something has got to give. Perhaps it's time for it to be your perfectionism.