Whether grown up bullies like Dan Cathy and Melissa Reeves realize it or not, they are directly or indirectly telling these vulnerable kids that there is something wrong with them, or they are somehow less than.

Pictures of happy same-sex couples kissing on City Hall steps as they get legally married sends a strong message of acceptance and love, but defiant, shock-tactic pictures of kiss-ins in front of fast-food chains seem more like a stunt than an exercise in visibility.

We've come a long way, gaybies, and the Chick-fil-A insanity of last week is not going to send us back to the dark ages of human sexuality and gender identity.

Our enemies distorted our message and reframed the story. And we allowed them to do it. How did we allow it to happen? Because there was no coordinated effort on our side.