I still argue with myself over the need to apologize to dead animals, but I no longer have to fight against apologizing to tires or old t-shirts or single discarded shoes. I still battle with the universe and my expectation that it is just looking for an excuse to ruin everything. I still seek balance.
When many others only see your child throwing a fit, I see the woman struggling behind the chaos. I see you at the store, at swim class, hovering at the kindergarten fence. I see you -- because I have been there.
Over the years I have found some common misunderstandings about anxiety in my practice. If you know anxiety like I do -- this list may not surprise you at all. For some of you however -- it might shed some new light on anxiety.
We need to teach our kids that darkness cannot extinguish the light. That we will not let that happen.
We know our kids want our help and we want to help them. The challenge is bridging the gap in communication so we're able to reach them when they need it most. How do you get your child to open up to you in times of stress?
While reassurance is OK as a first response, to really connect with your child, look them in the eye, tell them you understand what they're going through and take some deep breaths together.
If you've never suffered from anxiety, it can be challenging to understand what a child is truly experiencing. In fact, excessive worrying may seem like a normal part of growing up and something kids just have to "deal" with.
I wish I could go back in time and teach the younger version of myself how to cope, but of course, that's not possible. What is possible is to try to reach as many kids and parents as possible with these coping skills.
We often press our children to perform because we feel that their success reflects on our parenting skills. This is a terrible burden to place on your children, which can cause performance anxiety and impact personal relationships.
Social and emotional programs are still in their infancy. They need support. They need a voice. If you're a parent, you can find out what your school is doing to implement SEL programming into the curriculum.