co-parenting with a high-conflict personality
While the Republican Party is desperately trying to cut ties with Donald Trump, the world watches in disbelief. All, that is, but a particular group of women and men with one thing in common.
When it comes to divorce, there's no such thing as an emotional free lunch. Whether you're the leaver or leavee, your life will be turned upside down. But while some of us lean into emotional pain, others defend against it by launching into action mode.
Today my ex-partner and I are able to laugh together like old friends. We still hit bumps in the road, but because I'm committed to harmony, I don't take anything personally.
You can't explain to a 10-year-old child that you can't call them because mommy went to court to prohibit it. While your anger may make you want to tell them, you know it is not in their best interests to possess that information.
Sure, you can claim to be unemotional, but if you resort to name calling or hanging up on your ex or refusing to respond to emails/texts, then you are clearly working on emotions rather than focusing on your shared vision for the children.
If you are reading this and realizing that YOU are the one who is causing your divorce to be high conflict, then I beg you to focus on the kids.
Whether it's how to communicate civilly when dropping off your children or how to maintain proper boundaries if you're in a new relationship, HuffPost Live tackles the complicated topic of how best to communicate with your ex.
Does the very thought of seeing your ex at your child's special events make you so angry you'd rather make an appearance at traffic court?
You, the reasonable ex, will not succeed in these fruitless endeavors. You will wear yourself out and feel like an abject failure. And, guess what? Feeling like an abject failure will not help your kids the least little bit.