You may have the same Malfunctioning Manspeak Translator in your head. Let me know if you relate to any of these common phrases. (And, since misunderstanding is often a two-way street, I also include the Accurate Manspeak Translation.)
Think about the person in your life that continually doesn't show up in the way that you would like or in a manner that would be fulfilling for you, yet you keep asking them to do things differently. The lesson here is believing who people demonstrate themselves to be.