Learn how to spot coercive control in abusive relationships.
Sometimes teen romance can be downright dangerous. Early relationships can be traps for young people, spoiling months or years of their lives and setting the pattern for future coupling.
Below are a series of questions about some of the controlling behaviors you may have experienced. (For a more complete list, please click here). Unhealthy domination by a partner is called coercive control. It's more than just occasional nastiness or bossiness -- it affects several areas of your life and causes you to change your behavior to keep the peace.
Love at first sight is lovely, but if you've been on more than a few first dates, you know the initial heat may quickly cool. In that first meeting you look for clues or "tells" as to whether that person across from you is worth seeing again. Still, it's easy to overlook some crucial signs.
Sometimes a controlling man genuinely wants to change. Maybe he regrets having hurt his loved ones. Maybe he is tired of being angry, tired of feeling alone and misunderstood, and tired of monitoring another person. Maybe he is truly ready to change.
Only straight, cisgender* women are isolated, manipulated, emotionally abused, stalked, micromanaged, sexually coerced, and physically abused by their partners, right? Ah, no.
It is natural to feel regret from time to time, but try to look ahead and not behind. You can look forward to a fulfilling life after ending your coercive control relationship. Recovery does not happen overnight, but it happens.
Coercive control is a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and get their way. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present.