As I say on my blog and in my courses: Don't give up. Hang on. Do the work. It's worth it. It's worth it a thousand times over. It's supposed to be hard. All good things in life require tending and laboring, falling and working. It's how we grow and it's how we learn to love.
The work begins with you, and then is rippled out into our relationships, our community, and our world. That's why naming these thoughts as projections is the first, and often most difficult step, in healing, as it's the one that orients you toward the person that needs the focus of your attention: you.
Whatever we water will grow. If we want the thoughts to stop growing, we must stop watering them, change the channel in our mind, and learn to focus our energy on what truly needs our attention. This is how we grow a different, and more peaceful, garden in our minds.
One of the ego's sole missions is to try to control outcomes, so it thinks that if it can just answer this one question, it will successfully avoid a failure, which ego interprets as a mistake. And because ego doesn't hold the mindset that failures and mistakes are how we learn but instead believes that they're measures of our self-worth, it has no tolerance for mistakes.