coping with loss
The simple and unassuming woman that you might not have noticed had a strength and wisdom that most could learn from.
Invite miracles into your life. They might arrive just in time for Mother’s Day.
Even if you have the best intentions, there are some things you should never, ever say.
Rejection from someone we have feelings for sucks, even if it's on the smallest scale of an unanswered text. I mean really, we all know that his/her cell is an extension of their hand or isn't more then a foot away.
In the first year of my grief, I was pretty much running on numb. I get that this second year will be a tough haul. My latest funk was triggered in a doctor's office when I was filling out paperwork.
"I wanted to create this project so that no one else feels the way I felt when I lost my mom," says DeAngelo Hughes.
In one instant I understood that I myself had set up the whole scenario of my son’s death, to fulfill my desire to become a better person.
We can be mad as hell and choose to use that energy to tackle a challenge or an obstacle that we never thought we could achieve. We could be stressed with financial strain and decide to perform 5 random acts of kindness for strangers. We can take our anxiety and channel it by playing on a playground with a kid in our lives. We can sing at the top of our lungs.
Life-changing events like deciding to marry, becoming a parent, and finding a career are all by choice. Becoming a widow is not by choice. It is thrust upon you. The word widow brings to mind an old crone, dressed in a long black shapeless dress, shrouded in a black veil, wearing sensible shoes.
"Grief will always be with me, but my two boys will forever be the best things about me."
When people you care about are in pain, think about the spectrum of emotion. Even as you may lovingly try to shift focus to the positive, let them know that you honor everything they are feeling, and that your actions do not imply that feeling good is inherently better or that their emotions are in any way wrong. Meet them where they are.