When we take these steps, we may have thoughts telling us we are a fool, or we will just get hurt. Yet, being vulnerable actually makes us more likely to get what we want. It leads to healthier modes of relating and creates a more compassionate relationship.
Most couples want to know the secret to a long and healthy relationship. Some say it’s communication and some say it’s sex. But, researchers are saying the trick is good, old fashion complaining.
Fighting, or arguing can even be healthy for a relationship if it's done respectfully and you both come out of it with a better understanding of the other person when the conflict is resolved.