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As the New Year approaches I've been reflecting on the nature of dating and the often devastating effect it plays in the lives of so many individuals.
Falling in love can sometimes have consequences if you aren't careful. Falling in love can cause people to do stupid things; things that can have really bad outcomes, simply because they were so blinded by their powerful feelings that they didn't realize the mistake they were making.
Knowing what to expect helps, as does taking your time, being patient, and understanding that you don't come first. That doesn't mean she isn't completely nuts about you, but she has to care for those kids with all she has.
Second marriage can be a disaster, or it can be the best thing that ever happened to you. What's the difference? Marrying the right person for the right reasons.
When I hear someone say, "I got dumped" I cringe. Why? Because the word "dumped" sounds really harsh, mean and insensitive.
Divorced people want a do-over! Most divorced men and women have some pretty bad memories of their marriage. So, does that have to be it? Don't I get a second chance? Those who want to get married again probably want the chance to make good memories, possibly learn from their mistakes and do it right this time.
A reader emailed me with the question, "What's the best way to get over falling in love with someone you met via online dating that you've actually never met in person?" Although I appreciate that the reader thinks she has a broken heart, I had to answer this way...
Realize this. When it comes to dating, not every man is going to like you enough to call back. And, you aren't going to like every man. That's completely OK.