debora spar

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Look outwardly. Look outside the organization to understand how the world is changing -- and what new problems need solving.
In the last six years the exceptionally influential Wall Street firm, Goldman Sachs, has been reported to engage in business practices that would appear to be strongly at odds with the professed values of Harvard and just about any other not-for-profit university or college.
It will always be a challenge to strike the right balance -- you are not going to have it all at the same time but you can come up with your own formula for happiness and success. To quote Shonda: "Because that woman is happy. That woman is fulfilled."
In order for us to continue to advance in the workplace and home, we must literally and figuratively remove the airbrushed media images of female success and tame our own unrealistic expectations for ourselves.
We put mounds of pressure on ourselves. Now, in our 20's and 30's, we're well on our way to having it "all" (or close to it). And we're crumbling under the pressure. We're blaming ourselves for failure and well, we're weeping over pork roast.
When I was younger, I assumed being tough on myself was the only way to remain on a steady path to "success." But I hadn't paused to define what success really meant to me.
Jennifer Senior's book All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood is a tonic to the realist school of childrearing, exploring the grind in the job along with the bliss. We're having no fun, and we are no fun, but we wouldn't do it any differently.
In an age when the options for college-educated women seem boundless, a new debate about what women want — and whether or
For any woman who has grappled with competing identities over the years, Spar's book is a refreshing acknowledgement of the impossible expectations women carry around with them, starting in adolescence and extending into old age.