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divorce with kids
There's no doubt that becoming or being a single mom in your 20s can be intimidating, terrifying, and make you feel like less of the "normal" family/parenting unit, but, that being said, it's one of the most rewarding, remarkable journeys a person can embark on. Raising one munchkin solo can have it's perks, and here are a handful of them...
Are you a self-righteous married person? I was. I thought (and sometimes said) many of those things about people around me getting divorced. I was scared of divorce. I needed people around me to stay married and keep the hope alive that marriage is a good thing; that it can work out.
Don't point fingers and put your ex on the defensive with blame or shame. Focus instead on the benefits to your children when they experience consistency and agreement between their parents.
WHAT'S HAPPENING
WHAT'S HAPPENING
It doesn't matter if you have a traditional or a non-traditional family structure, as long as you are true to your family's individual passions, values and beliefs, you will find happiness as a family.
You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.
Your ex will have their own private peep-hole into continually viewing your life, if they so desire. Especially if you rely on them for favors. Going on a trip? Be wary of asking them to water plants and feed your dog -- the temptation to snoop is extremely inviting.
