divorce with kids
There's no doubt that becoming or being a single mom in your 20s can be intimidating, terrifying, and make you feel like less of the "normal" family/parenting unit, but, that being said, it's one of the most rewarding, remarkable journeys a person can embark on. Raising one munchkin solo can have it's perks, and here are a handful of them...
Are you a self-righteous married person? I was. I thought (and sometimes said) many of those things about people around me getting divorced. I was scared of divorce. I needed people around me to stay married and keep the hope alive that marriage is a good thing; that it can work out.
Don't point fingers and put your ex on the defensive with blame or shame. Focus instead on the benefits to your children when they experience consistency and agreement between their parents.
Once you’ve gotten through the divorce process there are a few pitfalls you need to be ready for. Especially if you have
It doesn't matter if you have a traditional or a non-traditional family structure, as long as you are true to your family's individual passions, values and beliefs, you will find happiness as a family.
You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.
Your ex will have their own private peep-hole into continually viewing your life, if they so desire. Especially if you rely on them for favors. Going on a trip? Be wary of asking them to water plants and feed your dog -- the temptation to snoop is extremely inviting.
3. Many problems don't go away (and the ones that do, get replaced by new ones). Ah, the biggest bitch about divorcing someone
1. It is not your fault. Whether a child is three or 30, it is a natural response to look for reasons why parents divorce
No. It’s the resounding answer to the question: Should you have a member of the opposite sex spend the night while you are
While recent studies have suggested that kids bounce back fairly well after the initial pain of the breakup, the question
Keeping the best interests of your children in mind will help you to make wise decisions about dating after your divorce. You owe it to yourself and your kids to build new relationships thoughtfully.
I am not the healer. But I can see the need for that masculine energy in their lives. Even in my own son's life. I see that he misses me.
Breaking up is never easy. When you're in the thick of it, it's hard to imagine you'll ever come out the other side alive -- let alone smiling.
I wondered, taking another sip of champagne, why I'd endured a decade of a less-than-riveting relationship with my future ex-husband.