"If you’re able to recover, no matter what side you’re on, it will take much longer than a simple physical affair," a 46-year-old man said.

The behavior is also known as "backburnering."

It all began as an occasional after-hours and work-related text from one of her husband's female co-workers. Soon, the texts began to come more frequently, often late at night. Then she found several naked pictures that the female co-worker had sent to him.