These questions will help you get a better sense of what the person is thinking without having to intuit cultural differences
The United States, on the other hand, boasts several hundred years as an established nation and a go-get-'em mentality. Both
If people do say no, they usually do it in ineffective ways that come with an excuse. For example, they might say, "I'd like to help but I'm really busy". The problem with this approach is it gives the other person an opportunity to continue to ask. They feel they have an opening. "Since you're busy this week how about next week?"
My clients often fear that if they show their true selves at work and reveal to their peers the fun sides of their personalities, they won't be taken seriously. If your professionalism makes you feel stymied, then you've probably taken it a bit too far.
Many of my clients see me because they want to change. There's something in their lives that is so routine, yet so undesirable or unhealthy. Maybe it's a poor diet, dating toxic men or women or laziness. They seek change, yet it eludes them. Most behaviors, good and bad, become automatic or habituated over time. Here are my tips to form healthy habits that stick:
First, understand that the issue is about you and your husband, not you and his mother. To change how you feel about this situation you must change your thinking. That said, see it as a positive thing that he has a strong relationship and values his mother -- it's not a competition.
Some people live their lives as if they are passengers in an out-of-control car. Rather than doing something to control the situation -- by getting into the driver's seat -- they operate the car as passengers. They attempt to control what is out of their control, rather than what actually is within it. Here's how you can gain control when you feel like you have none:
How often have you met someone new and been won over by their charm? Or maybe you have a friend who always seems to get his or her needs met through you, yet always manages to find a way to make you feel special. Although these scenarios can be taken at face value, they can also be indicative of someone's narcissism at play. Although a small dose of narcissism can actually be healthy, there's a very fine line between what is normal and what is pathological.
Keep in mind: that big container = big consumption. Similarly, when shopping for food, buy small containers and avoid jumbo-sized as they only encourage bigger portions.
When dating and living apart, there's a safe place to retreat to during times of stress. When living together, though, things that were once a non-issue are now front and center and the basics of living are now under scrutiny as compatibility is further tested by the new living arrangement.
Rather than thinking about a response, try to understand what they're going through at an emotional level. For example, if a friend tells you about losing a job, think about their situation and how it might impact them, not how you would feel if you were in their situation.
What makes Make Money, Live Wealthy a great read is that Austin has compiled this book based on his interviews with 75 successful entrepreneurs. I am honored that Austin included me in this most august group!